Why do I feel 500 times more heart broken when the girl i fell in love with left me for a lesbian rather than a man????????
Do you think this is my Karma for jacking off while watching lesbian porn???
I mean, I really get turned on by the sexual part of it…
… but when I want to connect to a particular girl, it really broke my heart…….
I mean...... it really breaks my heart soooo bad to know a girl is a lesbian, rather than being taken by a man.....
it really sucks.....
i wish i was a lesbian..............
This is a psychological question...... is there something wrong with me?
How do I approach this??
2007-03-25 19:00:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I have a female friend whose husband came out as Gay after 27 years of marriage, and she felt like you seem to.
All she could say was that there was no room for her to compete with a guy for her husbands' attention. It's very sad, but true.
I really feel badly for you-I can't imagine how I'd feel in your shoes. Please take care and give yourself the time you need to grieve this terrible loss and you will eventually heal.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 19:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by Croa 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Okay; I don't think there's anything wrong with you; and since I'm not you I don't really know why the other person being a woman is eating you up more than if the person was a guy. But I have a feeling that part of the reason maybe that you feel betrayed...like somehow she should've given you hints or something. Or maybe you have that "what does she have that I don't have" feeling. Then again, it could be the common feeling of "What? I got beat by a girl??"
Either way, there could be many reasons.
I offer my condolences
2007-03-27 21:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by cassalecs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude there is nothing you can do about that. Some people just realize they are attracted to the same sex during a time that is very painful to their current partner. You are not the cause of a women becoming gay. People are either gay or they're not. If she is bi then maybe she just wants to experiment and try her luck with the same sex.
She is obviously someone you didn't know very well if this is a surprise. So my advice would be to drop her like a bad habit and find a good rebound.
2007-03-25 19:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rumin 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude, it isn't karma. Most men masturbate and most men get turned on by lesbian porn (even just thinking about it). Perhaps you feel hurt because (a) you really care about this woman, and (b) it hurts your ego that you didn't fulfill her "needs." Being a lesbian isn't something she chose; it's innate. You can't do antyhing about that.
By the way, aren't all heterosexual men lesbians in male bodies? (lol) Hang in there. You'll be okay.
2007-03-25 19:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you mentally.... but maybe physically.
Just kidding.
You just need to find the right person for you, and remember there are a lot of fish in the sea.
2007-03-25 19:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jim M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe its because if shes turned lesbian theres no way for you two to get back together. Sorry for your loss!
2007-03-26 01:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by Becky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you feel heart broken cuz as a male you can not compete with a girl. kind of like comparing apples and bannanas
2007-03-25 19:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by billy_the_kidd2_99 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe that you are "heartbroken" at all. I think that you think you are being clever with this post.
2016-03-29 06:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh for crying out loud... shut up, quit your bitchin and grow a freaking backbone.
2007-03-25 20:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Cameron 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋