I'm 22 and about to marry the man of my dreams. he treats me great and is the best i've ever had in bed. BUT i've always wanted to be with a woman - just once! - and i've thought about having a threesome but i am not comfortable with him being near another woman sexually. so my question is, is it wrong to sleep with a female secretly before we get married next month? just once?
2007-03-25 18:52:50 · 14 answers · asked by carlee and kyle 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It's still cheating. Besides sex with a woman can be addicting. How do you know you could stop after just once.
2007-03-25 18:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would it be ok for him to be with a man before he gets married? If the answer is no, then you shouldn't be with a woman (even if it is just the once). Also you are uncomfortable with him being with someone else, so he may feel the same about you being with someone else. Only do it if you will let him do the same.
2007-03-26 03:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sarcasma 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would it be wrong for him to sleep with another man secretly?
Secrets and lies ALWAYS get found out and poisen the relationship forever; trust is so hard to get back. Is it really worth sacrificing the future of your relationship for sexual curiosity.
If you are prepared to take that risk, then maybe you should ask yourself if your ready to get married and have such a full on relationship.
Just don't kid yourself that everything would be OK if you went behind your boyfriends back.
2007-03-26 01:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by tigertigertiger 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your fiancé before you do anything. To him it could be considered cheating. If he is the man of your dreams you probably don't want to ruin the chance to spend the rest of your life with him over a one night stand.
2007-03-26 03:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask a question like that in here, then you have lots of thinking about marriage to do yet. In fact, if you have to ask the question at all, you better give your upcoming marriage lots of thought. What about later?
2007-03-26 02:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by carl j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's wrong or not is up to you and your guy. Some would say it's wrong, some would say it's not- it all depends on your own personal morals, not what others think. However, it is undisputably dishonest to do it behind his back.
2007-03-26 02:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have no integrity or respect for your relationship .. why not?
then the rest of your life you can tell everyone how you screwed up a relationship by screwing around. it will then become routine and you will wonder why none of your relationships every workout.
2007-03-26 02:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't explore your curiousity now it will continue to bother ya... may affect the marriage later. might as well deal with it now. negotiate something that you're both comfy with.
2007-03-26 02:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by koh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am totally against cheating - however, in this situation, I would do it - anyway, make 100% sure this is what you want to do. x
2007-03-26 02:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bite Me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's gonna happen...better it happens before you get married.
2007-03-26 01:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋