Should I do this?

Question

My ex-boyfriend and I have been thinking about getting back together. Right now, my mother is going away on a business trip this weekend and will be gone for a week or two. I told him about it and he asked if I would be able to stay home while she is away. I told him that my mother is over protective and won't let me. He asked if I had any keys to the house I said no. He said that I shoud try and get a hold of the spare keys that are at my grandmother's house and keep them for a while so I can have access to my house anytime I want while she is gone. But here is the thing. He asked me to try and see if I can convince my mother to let me stay home while she is away in Hawaii. That way me and him could spend more time with each other. I want to spend more time with him I honestly do because I really do think this might help start back up our relationship. But I don't know how I should go through with it. If I should really have him over my house, it being just the two of us there.....

I just don't know if I should really do this. I feel like I should but still. I have to sneak around a lot...I am just so clueless of what to do. I want us to have a relationship again he does too and I think he is doing this to help start it back up. One reason why we broke up was because we didnt see enough of each other.

Please don't flame me or anything. If some of you are thinking I do not want him over for sex. No. I would like serioud answers and helpful advice of what I should do. Nothing stupid.

A lot of you are saying that he only wants this for sex. Trust me on this he isn't that kind of boy. We were already going out three years before we broke up, during those three years we never really saw each other and it finally took its toll on us. I just know it can't and it isn't for sex. We have constantly talked about starting our relationship back up he actually said how this might help both of us figure out if we should or should get back together. And the trip my mother is going on is only for her job. No children allowed on business trips.

Answer 1

you sound very uncomfortable with the idea, so don't do it, it is only asking for trouble and once you do that all the trust your mom had in you will take a long time to build back, you do not know what he may try to do when he is alone with you. and its better to act responsible and maintain the trust your mom has in you than to make your boyfriend happy for a short time, especially when you already see him even if its not as long as the both of you would like....

Answer 2

He does have sex in mind and obviously you have had that type of relationship with him already so there is nothing wrong with him thinking in terms of wanting to be intimate with youit is natural for a man to think that way. Is there any reason he can not come see you at your grandmothers house. You could sit on the front porch or in the living room and talk or listen to music or watch a movie and spend time with each other. Then if being imtimate is what you want you will find a way. I would be careful though about having someone in the house while your mother is gone. Murphys law says something will go wrong or be moved or come up missing and mom will have that mothers intuition that mothers have and some how some way whether talking to the neighbors or a close friend she will find out you were at the house.

Answer 3

I would say that it s a big NO! You should never be with him alone specially at your house. You've never know what he will do to you. Even you want your relationship to be back to the usual. Still you don't need to be together for week or two at you house. They are other way you to make your relationship work. Have time with each other but not this way.

Answer 4

I think it is wise to listen to your mother and do what she has advised. I really don't see the point of getting back together by requesting to stay with you while your mother is away. If he were a gentleman, he should openly request your mother's permission first. Beware, I don't think it's a good idea letting him stay with you. Again, if he really wants to get back (a sincere reunion) together, he should do something else better that impresses you and your mother. It's not safe for you to be alone with him for days and nights, I agree if he visits you once in a while and your mother stays with you during daytime only.

Answer 5

You answered you're own question.You're not feeling comfortable with the sneaking around and lying.You're conscience is telling you no.You should always listen to you're gut instinct.It will NEVER LIE. The only people that are gonna agree with you on this one are boys you're age.Boys are out for one thing and that's the reason why you're b/f is trying to talk you into this.He's got something on his mind and it's not playing cards.

Answer 6

I wouldn't recommend it.

Sneaking around is never good. I'm guessing you're fairly young. This would be a huge violation of your mom's trust, and would give her more reason to be over-protective in the future.

Good luck with whatever happens with your relationship.

Answer 7

Are you kidding me? This guy wants to start this thing back up (because he wants sex) the whole time your moms gone. Trust me, I know what this guy wants. Who wouldn't want sex 24/7 while your moms gone. You need to go with your mom on this one!!! You don't want any unexpected pregnancy or drama from this guy. I can tell this guy only wants one thing (SEX!) I don't blame him. But you asked for advice and I'm giving it.......GO WITH MOM! HAVE FUN AND WHEN YOU RETURN YOU'LL REALIZE IT WAS THE BEST CHOICE....TRUST ME.

Answer 8

NO NO NO. You do not need to steal the keys, you do not need to be alone with him in the house. It would lead to sex. You don't need to do that. It is wrong of him to try to talk you into doing these things. He wants to have sex with you and then probably dump you again.

Answer 9

all excellent answers so far. also, if your mom was to find out about what you did, you would lose her trust and trust is a very hard thing to rebuild once you break it. your young and i dont know of too many relationships that once they end, ever restart and last very long.

Answer 10

my opinion is go ahead i mean if he tries ANYTHIN wrong kick him out but there are guys that dont want a gf for sex but sum1 to be honest and all that if you feel comfertable with him being there i say yeah