well you know, today i asked what you guys and girls thought i what i will do with my gf and i. i made the choice im staying i love her, true im only 18, but i love her forever. i don' t care if you think im throwing my life away, i love her and thats that. I told her, and i were still bf and gf. even if that means i have to become a dad for the child, i won't mind i love kids. and i have 3 younger siblings, so i know how to take care of kids. i settled everything with her, and were not getting married i thought about asking her but its too soon, later is better. She has a job, i have a job, and besides i only work weekends, so i can take care of the baby when she needs me too, together. We love each other, her ex is gone, and he will get his *** kicked by me, because for leaving his gf thats going to have his baby, and he's an *** i met him he really is. In the add detail part i will post what i said before so non of you won't get confused. tell me what you think and be honest.
2007-03-25 18:41:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok, last time i told all of you about my gf. if you don't know what im talking about, i wil explain again. ok this is how it goes, my gf whos 23 years old, i been dating for a while now. anyway before she dated me, she had a ex bf, and they made the choice to have a baby, but broke up a few weeks later. anyway she told me she was going to have a baby thats not even mine!. we never had sex, and she said shes going to keep the baby. anyway i came here and asked for advice, and i told her how i felt. i said im glad shes keeping the baby, and im still going to be with her, i love her, and i will help her take care of the baby. im 18, and my 23 year old gf is having a baby thats not mine, but i made the choice to stay. i got a job, and i can help her if she needs it. were not getitng married, and she said shes never going to see her ex again. i love her, and if that means baby sitting the baby if she has to go somewhere, i won't mind. what are your thoughts on this? and be 100% honest
2007-03-25 18:42:05 · update #1
Think this through and try to picture yourself in this situation in 5 or 10 years. If you really love her and she really loves you, why not get married?? To me it sounds like she's got a free baby-sitter. Hope you don't regret. Plus, you're too young, and at 18 you think you are in love, but you don't really know the meaning of it. If you wanna do it, go for it. But if I were you, I'd walk away. You're gonna miss a million things in your life for something that might not be worth it. It was her decision to have the baby, not yours, and you will always wonder what will happen if he shows up again.
2007-03-25 18:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Horumaket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your intentions are admirable and you sound very mature for your age. Taking on that kind of responsibilities is a very tough job. But if you really love her, then be with her, I don't understand why you wouldn't get married, I can understand it because you are only 18. But if you are sure and she loves you the same, the baby will be yours, because he will know you from birth....as far as beating this idiots a$$. don't dirty your hands, he will receive what is coming to him but from someone else, don't let it be from you. The Lord watches over all of us, and he will someday have to answer for this. Don't let it be from you, keep doing the right things, and all will go well for you....we reep what we sow....so, unless she has feelings for him and that is the reason not to get married now, than just help her, as you would anyone else, and be her friend. Hope all goes well. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-03-25 19:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you treat that child like its yours & raise it, for all intents & purposes it will be yours, but be on the look out for the dad to show back up sooner or later, & try to cause trouble.Especially around the time he finds out he will have to pay child support. Cause it's cheaper to raise them if you live with them than it is to pay child support.
2007-03-25 18:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by thepeacelover01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really love her and if she feels the same about you, you are making the right choice.
2007-03-25 18:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making a good choice.....Good job and congrats to her on the new baby
2007-03-25 18:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by momma2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it.
2007-03-25 18:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋