I THINK MY BOYFRIEND IS CHEATING WHAT i CAN FIND THAT OUT?

Answer 1

The easiest way is to ask. You can tell when he is lying, right? So sit him down and let him know that you have concerns about the relationship, and ask him if he has anything he needs/wants to tell you. If this fails, keep your eyes out for the "usual" signs;
increased or decreased sex drive, sudden change in appearance, "working late" more often, not answering calls as much as he usually does (unless he has recently changed jobs or something like that), smelling like another woman, showering right when he gets home if he doesn't usually do that, picking fights (to justify his behaviour- "its your fault, you pushed me away"), buying you present all the time if he doesn't usually...

Answer 2

You've been together several months, but something doesn't feel quite right with your partner. You start wondering if he or she might be having an affair. Is it jealousy, your imagination or just apathy that is the result of long-term complacency with each other? It can be hard to tell sometimes, but when in doubt go with your gut and look for the following behaviors that might mean your mate is having an affair.

Oddly, your partner might be having an affair if he or she is acting MORE attentive than usual to you. If you are suddenly showered with gifts and compliments in what almost seems like an inappropriate manner, then he or she might be trying to make up for guilty feelings.

Look for a sudden change in your partner's routine. Is he or she staying out a lot longer than usual, not showing up for dinner or unaccountable at times for his or her whereabouts? If your partner suddenly alters his or her daily habits that too can be a sign of cheating.

If your partner is frequently picking fights with you, that might also mean big trouble. The emotional logic behind this is that picking a fight gives him or her to an excuse to fly out of the house and possibly into the arms of the third party. That way the cheating partner can deny guilty feelings and blame you instead. If you are not to blame, a cheater will create a reason to justify what he or she is doing to you.

Your mate might also become overly critical of you. This is part of an agenda that once again, gives them an excuse to leave or justify the affair. The guilty partner might also be overly sensitive to criticism from you as there may be a ring of truth that triggers guilty feelings that they would rather not face.

If every time you have fight your partner threatens you with ending the relationship, you might also have a cheater on your hands. Your lover feels safe with these ultimatums because they have another person as "back-up" should the two of you decide to split up.

Another sign of cheating is a consistent negative attitude towards the relationship and comments that make you feel as if you have an expiry date inked on your forehead. This might include saying such things as "I would like to travel next year." (with no mention of a "we") or "You know I will always love you, even if this ever ended."

If your lover becomes withdrawn and depressed, it could be that he or she is brooding about what they have done and can't handle the guilt. Sudden explosive displays of affection or anger can also be a bad sign, as the partner might be transferring emotional reactions from the infidelity onto you simply because you see each other more often. In other words, you may be the recipient of a mood that is not due to any of your actions at all.

If your mate becomes incommunicative and refuses to interact with you, this can also be a sign of cheating. He or she might seem cold or inconsiderate of your feelings and be less intimate with you in general. This kind of psychological distancing includes such behaviors such as locking the bathroom door when he or she has always left it open. They may also insist that they pick up their own dry cleaning or keep locked drawers. They may also insist on doing their own laundry. If he or she seems extra finicky about personal boundaries or seems to be trying to set new rules about privacy, this is also a warning sign.

Relationship experts say that if your partner's taste in clothing, movies or music suddenly changes, than they may be trying please their new lover.

Another sign of cheating is if your partner seems to be a bit over the top when cutting up or criticizing a person that both of you know quite well. This is a common tactic used to conceal an affair that leads you believe that nothing would ever be possible between the two of them.

Perhaps the biggest indication that you might be dealing with a cheater is if they stop acting as if they are a part of your life. They may lose complete interest in family, friends or following through on mutual financial goals or plans for the future. Your mate also might be reluctant to go out of town for any reason, as that might cause a crisis in his or her other relationship.

If you do discover that your mate is cheating, you are likely to go through the five stages of grief - shock denial, anger, sadness and acceptance. There is no underestimating the enormous impact of these reactions, even if you had a gut feeling that you knew about the affair all along.

Your relationship will also probably go through three phases. The first is the reaction to the affair, the second is the decision as to what to do about it and the last is a recuperation phase (whether or not you decide to stick it out with your partner in the end.) If your partner is willing to be part of the decision and recuperation phases, it is highly recommended that you seek marriage or relationship counseling to deal with the fall-out from the infidelity.

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Answer 3

Because he keeps bring up a coworker an its like he lies to me an then tells me later. He seems to know a lot about her, if I say I'm going to beat her azz he says something like she will be back at work in a couple of weeks. Then he hangs up an cuts his phone off. I want to ask her should I? Are the feelings I am having something to worry about or let go? Please I need to know my love for him is deep for him.

Answer 4

Well you can do what everybody does...follow him, check his phone, wallet. etc. But if you suspect is because he is giving you reasons to do so.
Cheating is an obvious way of showing no love, respect or care for someone else.

Answer 5

why ur feeling that ur boyfnd is cheating u n in which he is cheating u.think +ve.if u feel he is really.then 1st confirm its true r not.if its true ask him.and if ur not satisfied with his answr leave him.becoz in the future he can also cheat u in any issue.

Answer 6

ask him if he is cheating? if he is any kind of man he will be honest. what makes you think he is cheating....is it just fear or have you actually seen him or caught him? if you have seen it then you need to leave now because it will never stop.

Answer 7

What I can find that out. Dump him and get an English teacher as a boyfriend.

Answer 8

if you kno any of his passwords...myspace, voicemail, email. or just try to surprise him at his house/job/school...and if hes not doing anything play it off like you were trying to be sweet

Answer 9

ask him if hes interested inna threesome , and does he know anyone as you would like to try .beware this is a male perspective

Answer 10

aaahahahahaha. yeahh i agree withh joey k.
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im sorry hunn.
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