How can I get pregnant, when he is not trying to have any more kids?

Question

My fiancee does not want any more kids. We have one already, but I desperately want another one. He said if it happens, it happens, but he is pulling out everytime we have sex. i use no BC on purpose, and he doesn't use condoms. He thinks the pull out method will work forever. Will it?

I have discussed with him, he still says he will not delibrately make me pregnant. If it happens it happens is his motto. Talking to him wont work. Been beggin g for almost 2 years now. He knows I am not on BC. I haven't had the B.C. Shot for like 3 years. We have been together for 6. Will be married in July, and have a 4 year old together.

Answer 1

No! And if you really want to have kids, then get him drunk & do what ya gotta do, & make sure you're the one on top! Just be sure to hang on in case he decides to push you off. Or if ya don't want the drunk method then just get him really horney.

Answer 2

Honestly, you should not be *trying* to get pregnant at all if your partner isn't in agreement about it. But, that being said, his attitude is somewhat lackadaisical if he's relying on the "pull-out" method and tells you "if it happens, it happens". There's a good chance you could become pregnant in the next year without having to feel guilty about any sort of trickery or dishonesty, because according to some stats, coitus interruptus is only about 81% effective. I suggest you hope for the best in the meantime, and maybe your partner will come around over time.

Answer 3

Both of you are acting irresponsibly. Have you told him you are not taking BC? If he doesn't want kids he needs to take control of the situation by using a condom every time. The pull-n-pray method is what got most of us here in the first place. So if you want to get pregnant you're doing the right thing. But you're not going about things the right way morally and you know it.

Answer 4

It depends, ya it could work forever. My man and i have been using that method for a couple of years and i haven't been on birth control, and nothing has happened. Listen, i know how you feel, but to get pregnant like that on purpose when you know he doesn't want it is kinda scandalous. I do feel the same way often though! I want a child and my man doesn't, but it's just not going to work out right unless he wants it also. I feel that if you did this that it would weigh on your conscious, and how could he ever trust you again? Just be smart girlie! Talk to him about it. Hopefully that helps.

Answer 5

The answer is no, it wont work forever... it might work as long as you two have sex, but statistically its not too likely that it will 'work forever'... but why are you trying to trick him into more kids? does he KNOW you're not on any form of BC? That is the kind of thing that will destroy a relationship... I've seen it happen... TALK to him, maybe you can have more kids in a few years... or maybe he'll agree to it sooner... but trying to get pregnant against his will? That's unbelievable, no its more like abominable... he couldn't (legally) force you to have a kid you didn't want, how dare you try and do it to him??

Answer 6

depend on how old your kid is.. maybe he think is still too young to take another responsible for another child...
will I think pull out method would work for forever.. he maybe about to come and he pull out.. I been doing that with my husband before we got marry...
So you should talk to him and ask him why he doesn't wanted another kid... Why do you desperatley wanted one... You should wait to your other kid is older... Just remember having baby need money to pay for diapers and for food..
And not using BC is up to you.. I have not use all my life..

Answer 7

nicely first of all confer with him, in case you do not talk there's a undertaking. Secondly you ought to in all possibility attempt yet another variety of BC than he can not tamper with on an identical time as you paintings issues out. there is an iud so which you may use as much as 5 years, there is the shot, the patch and the hoop. That way there are not any twist of destiny on your approach of working issues out. I understand your not desiring to have childrens, and its unhappy to be certain the comments concerning the type you will like it as quickly as you have it. A women should not be measured by way of the variety of little ones she pops out. i'm hoping you do paintings issues out between you.

Answer 8

Pull out method may not work forever.There is gonna be time when he'll get tired of it or pulling out will be too late.But the problem is why don't you want to comprimise?It should be desision for two people.He has as much as right as you do.Things will be much better for the child if daddy is ready for him/her too.It takes two to make and to raise a child.

Answer 9

What took you two so long to decide to get married? Maybe he wants to make sure the next child is born in a committed relationship within a loving marriage. You don't suppose he's getting cold feet, do you?

Answer 10

you can get pregnant just by his pre-***. it only takes one little strong swimmer to get where it needs to be, and *bingo* youre expecting. when we first had our son, my b/f said no more, and our baby boy, is now a hell-raising two year old... and one night, i guess at the "right time", i looked at our son sleeping soundly on the couch, and said, i cant believe how big hes getting, and then i slipped in a "baby,(all pouty, with puppy dog eyes) i think its time we tried for another one... what do you think...?) and to my surprise, he agreed... maybe your man will change his mind too. i wouldnt try to trick him though, but def. dont tell him pulling out dont work...lol good luck

Answer 11

No, it won't. There were some girls on Oprah about 10 years ago thinking that they were caring a 2nd Jesus because their boyfriends didn't penetrate or ejaculate in them. They are quick little swimmers, it will happen.