Ok need you opinion on Gay brother's beef with me?

Question

It has now been 3 years since my brother cut off all contact with me. I am now married with two baby boys that he has never seen, wich saddens me so much because he is a fantastic uncle to my neices, I recently emailed him trying to reconcile but he didnt reply, his beef with me is thet a few years ago when i had some friends over, they asked me if they could watch some porn, because i dont have any i went and got some from his room ( not even giving a thought that my brother was gay because it never matterd to me if someone was or wasnt) but when we put it on it was gay porn and it then went around our school that he was gay! I can understand i shouldnt have gone into his bedroom without him there but is this a good reason for him not to speak to me for 3 years? I love him soooooo much we were very close growing up and it nearly brings me to tears every time i think of him and how much i miss him. Should i keep trying or should i just let it be? how would you feel if your sis did this

he is nearly 24

Answer 1

I think he should have forgiven you by now. I think it was an honest mistake on your part. and if he can't see or understand it, then it's his loss not yours. Though I think you should've gotten him SOMETHING for putting him through that much trauma. That must of been a lot for him to chew at once. but still, he should forgive you by now.

Answer 2

I would think two brothers who are very close would be able to talk about this and come to some sort of understanding.

Are you 100% sure that this is the only issue?

I have not had deliberate contact with my brother for over 4 years. It is not because of one incident. It is because after 20 years of trying to have a civil relationship with him I finally realized that he has never shown any for me. In public and in private, the only words/actions that I have experienced from him have been ones of disrespect, if not downright scorn. Is this because I'm gay? It no longer matters. I will not stay in any kind of a relationship where I am not respected.

I am not saying that this is your case at all. But there may be more to the story than you, yourself, are willing to admit.

Or, maybe your brother is just a baby.

I don't know.

Answer 3

it is not ok the two. that's generic which you dont have faith the two your brother or you mom. they have shown you that violence is physically powerful. They approve of using violence yet have a double many times used with you. they do no longer look to be genuine to their values. yet on the comparable time, they're supportive approximately your subject. So what you're able to do is clarify to them which you will experience greater supported on your subject in the event that they have been truer to their concepts. That in the event that they might give up performing abusively, it could be much less complicated which you will have faith them. If later on, the area doesnt exchange and you nonetheless experience which you will no longer have faith them, then you definately ought to discover ways to maintain a distance from them, by way of fact you may no longer assume to be helped or supported emotionally by utilising people you dont have faith... you get the belief? edit: your brother ought to press costs along with your little woman as witness of what she observed. i wish, on your individual sturdy which you are attempting this after he's made the attempt of flying right down to the place you're. you need to bypass to the police with him. and give up making excuses approximately it. that's what desires to be executed, no remember what your mom has executed no remember what your brother has executed contained in the previous. he's there that can assist you are attempting this. set a sturdy occasion on your daughter. instruct her that its no longer precise to hit woman. that's on your daughters sturdy too.

Answer 4

It was your fault not communicate with him while in school and not convince one of your wild girl friends hooking up with him and not tell your friends leave him alone and said thing like so what my brother is gay he still my brother.

Ok all that too late, but reconcile by call him up and say come one give me a break and confessed to him what written here.
Then ask him hey how it like to be gay

Answer 5

What I don't understand is how nothing at all triggered in your brain when you went to get the porn. Gay brother most likely equals gay porn. But I digress. I have a feeling your brother is mad at you for something different. Are you sure you're giving all the details?

Answer 6

Your brother is immature and needs to realize that an honest mistake isn't worth losing someone who cares about him like you do. I'd give everything I have into one last ditch effort, but if it doesn't work then just let him know that you want him to be a part of his nephews lives and that he's always welcome if he decides to.

Answer 7

You can try to reconcile with him...but what you did was pretty unforgiveable...let him make any moves after that.

Answer 8

maybe he changed emails.
or hasn't gotten your message.
I think he is way overreacting.
If my sister did that to me I would forgive her
since there is nothing wrong with being gay.
Why do you all sit around watching porn.
are you emo or something?

Answer 9

hunt him down and confront him.
tell him how you feel.

you didn't mean to hurt him
and he shouldn't hold a grudge,

Answer 10

i think its best if you try to reconciliate with him.. i mean then again its been 3 years since this little event... and i think your brother would be happy to meet your children, i think they can be the key to your reconciliation. good luck