Custody of baby?

Question

My ex wants full custody of my baby. He petitioned me for paternity and says he will win. I'm a stable Mother and provide
a perfect home for my little one. I don't have a problem with visitation I want my child to know the father. He is just mad because I filed for Child support. He left me at 12 weeks of pregnancy and I put my last name for the baby and I know he wants to change that CAN HE? What do you think the judge will say. We both are stable he is just mean. Any Suggestions? My baby is 6months by the time we go to court
he will be 9 months. Oh his father is loaded and is lending him the money for a spectacular lawyer. I'm very worried. HELP
he has never met the baby and we were never married. He is for sure the father.

Answer 1

first off, there WILL BE A DNA TEST thats a fact and when and if he is the father he has as much right to the child as you, so because your baby is young as young as 6 months he will only get visitation rights , which is fine the thing is, he still has to pay child support but if he gets 50/50 custody he will have to pay nothing, because the baby will be in his care 50% of the time but I dought it since you can prove he has not been around, he will get limited visitaion..so no worries ok PS whatever you do NEVER talk bad about the babies father to a JUDGE or Mediation they DO NOT LIKE IT, tell mediation you wants what best for your child and that visitation is fine and they will go with everything you have to say, let him talk smack because the judge will not like it at all, who cares about his family money he can get the best lawyer in the world, means nothing..its whats best for the child not you or him trust me on this one

Answer 2

Wow you sound kinda like where i was and kinda still am....My little boy is going to be 2 in may...Me and his Father we not and are not married...When my little boy was just a couple of months old i field for custiody....He told me all this bull about that woman think they have all these rights but that men have just as much if not more.....Well he found out when we went to court....I will be honest i live at home with my Dad and Mom and i did'nt work for the first year that my little boy was here....But his Father on the other hand was dealing in drugs but i had no way to prove it...He would call telling me that he could just come by and pick my littleboy up...Well i talked to the law abut it and they said he could that i should fill for custody...Well he kept buggin mme before the court date so i got a restraning order or how ever you spell it against him...He told me he had the best lawyer in the world pretty much...I was scared to death cause his granny who helps him out in everything is loaded with money...He would tell me stuff like money talks....Well I got the money to gether for a lawyer and we went to court....I had to take a parenting class and i did but he would not take it...So when we went to court he had no lawyer and got fined for taking the parenting class....We went to court again and he still hadent taking the class...I got full custody of my little boy and he got squat....Some might think iam mean for not letting him see my little boy but he is not a good person for my child to grow up around.....Now he is in jail and will be there untill 2009 at least that gives me alittle peace untill then.....


But let me tell you what happen...Before the court date i was so scared....And i prayed and my family did...Wel this man that i new said he was praying that when i went to court that i somthing would happen that i would wonder why? Did i even worry...Well while my lawyer and judge was asking him questions about what he was even wanting ...He was like well what ever she wants i just want to get this crap over with!!!!
So what im trying to say is pray that everything will work out....If you are wanting the father to see the baby then pray that you will get custody....About 99 % of the time if both parents are good and all that stuff the mother will still get custody because we are the ones that carried that child the men did nothing but have fun.....And as for the last name thing i gave my little boy my last name and they told me meaning the lawyers that he can't have his name changed that the dad canot change it unless the mother wants it changed......

Well i hope everything works out...Email me if you need to i will help in anyway possible

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Answer 3

Research bonding and attachment disorders. Use your research to win your case. It is very important that the baby not change custody at this age because right now is a very important time in the baby's attachment learning. I have a daughter who went to live with her dad and his family from the time she was 3 mos to about a year and a half. She is now 16 and we've had problems with her ever since I got her back. I think a lot of it was because of those bonding problems. She has a major depressive disorder, and a lot of other problems. Hopefully the judge will be able to see that and not let him have custody. Be fair about visitation though. Good luck!

Answer 4

No HE can not change what is on the baby's birth certficate. If you didn't put his name on it only YOU can put his name there if YOU choose to do so. He can take you to court and try to gain full custody but if what you say is true the most he would be able to get would be 50/50 custody. Stop worrying, family court decides on what is best for the child...not what is best for a spoiled brat of a father of the child.

Answer 5

Well, it's unlikely that he would get full custody, but if you're both capable of being good parents, or at least can claim that well enough in court, then he does deserve to see his child and possibly even joint custody. Not being there throughout the pregnancy does not make him a bad father. It just makes him a bad friend to you.

Answer 6

Are you listed on the toddler's beginning certificate because the legal father? If certain, have you ever lengthy gone to courtroom to examine visitation and/or toddler help? If no longer, that's what you opt to do. if you're unmarried and there has never been any legal custody/visitation order from a courtroom, she has each ideal to do even with she needs to with the toddler. only because a guy is listed on the beginning certificate it does no longer provide you with any legal rights to custody or visitation, you elect a courtroom order. good success.

Answer 7

The Judge cannot take full custody away from you
UNLESS
your ex can Proove beyond a shadow of a doubt you are unfit to be a mother to your child
VERY hard to do
unless you really are unfit
chances are you will have joint or spilt custody
he will at least get his "visitations"
but cant take your baby