I had a miscarriage. Should I..?

Question

I had a miscarriage before I had the chance to tell my parents. Should I tell them that they might have been grandparents or do I just not tell them?

I am 20. Still in college trying to get a teaching degree. I'll put it this way I am less upset than my boyfriend but yes I am a little sad. Obviously I am no married (boyfriend). I live with my boyfriend.

If you need to know anything else then please feel free to ask.

I am 20. Still in college trying to get a teaching degree. I'll put it this way I am less upset than my boyfriend but yes I am a little sad. Obviously I am no married (boyfriend). I live with my boyfriend.

If you need to know anything else then please feel free to ask.

Answer 1

I would tell them it may hurt them to find out but i know that when i'm a parent i would want to know something like that from my daughter.....when you do it though make sure you sit them down and tell them gently and then talk about it with them...because hiding something like that could seriously stress the relationship..i agree with most of these people about talking to your mom first....she'll know more about what you're going through than your dad

Answer 2

Personally, I would tell them. I know that if I didn't tell them right away, it would somehow be brought up, probably by a slip of the tongue, and then there would be arguments over whenter I meant to tell them or not, and it would create a sense of distrust.

However, this is something that you need to do what you think is right. Most likely, if you tell them, they will be supportive. Miscarrying is not easy, physically or emotionally, on anyone, and no one should have to handle it without a support system of family and friends. I do not know where the father is in all of this, but I hope and pray he is supporting you through it all. Your parents will support you and help you through this rough time. That's what they're there for.

However, if you do not feel that the time is right, don't tell them. This is your call.

Good luck, and you have my prayers.

Answer 3

It's completely up to you. If you want to try again, sure tell them, they'd probably be very supportive and you need that now. My miscarriage was at 18 and out of wedlock (which is a big deal in my family) so I wish I hadn't told them. Especially since it the issue ended up to be null and void anyway. But this may not pertain to your situation. Like I said, if they're waiting for a new grandbaby and you need some support, let them know.

Answer 4

Wow, what a decision. Probably I would not. It is not life threatening even though there are many thought issues to contend with. It is nature's way of taking control of a situation. Perhaps, later if you want, there will be a chance to tell them about an upcoming child in the future. If you are really close to them, you may want to pass the information on to them. I just tend to only pass along good news.

Answer 5

What's done is done, I wouldn't tell them, unless you need the emotional support.

If it was a 'surprise' pregnancy (I don't know your age or details), please step up the birth control so that doesn't happen again. If it was a planned pregnancy, a miscarriage doesn't really factor into getting pregnant again.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 6

tell them. no matter what the issue is, always tell them everything and you don't have to tell your dad all details of an issue that you would tell your mom and vice versa. I'm sure you are more comfortable telling your mom things over you dad, but this something they ought to both know. maybe not at the same time. talk to mom and then dad on this one.

Answer 7

I think it depends on how you're taking it. Losing a baby is hard, and if you're really hurting and need their support they will need to know why. If you're accepting of the loss, (very difficult, I know) then you might just want to save them the disappointment.

Answer 8

I wouldn't tell them no need to get them worked up about something.

Answer 9

Well, I think that telling your parents would strictly your choice.

Answer 10

If you feel its important for them to know then yes otherwise do what you feel is right.