My husband and I have only been married a few months. We are now getting a divorce this coming Wednesday. Of course I was/am really hurt by it and it's extremely hard on me doubly because I'm pregnant. However, as I began assessing some things, is it possible for a man to say that he loves you, be in love with someone else, make you feel guilty for the problems that you two have endured, change his mind and accept responsibility, and THEN turn around and say that he wants a divorce? Of course narcissism encompasses other areas like being able to put on a good front in front of others, taking over conversations that confront their weaknesses, warranting his arrogance and pride as self love, and etc...but I'm just wondering should I be crying over someone who simply didn't love me after all or elated that he decided to end my misery by requesting a divorce because at 39, he seems to possess narcisistic characteristics?
2007-03-25 17:38:00 · 9 answers · asked by PEACHFACE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh god, everyone is playing armchair psychologist these days. Does it make you feel better to give his 'issue' a name? Does it help you in denying that you had any personal responsibility in this situation at all? Probably.
Sure, you can turn into one of those support group junkies and play victim to the 'mentally ill' or you can stop pretending to be a psychologist, stop pretending that you were not at least partially to blame and take a good look at yourself, your situation in life and do your damn best to improve it without the jargon of pop psychology and support groups.
Is your husband a narcissistic personality? Who knows, but you are probably right in divorcing him, now get off your computer and go take care of yourself and your future child.
2007-03-25 17:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh hunny I feel for you. Some men can be immature, just as much as women. You shouldn't cry over a jerk, its easier said then done I know. Maybe the pregnancy gave him a jolt of some sort, maybe he realized now he's got to take responsibility or maybe he's been with someone other then you. At anything try to remain focused, there's a baby on board, you need to be strong on that part. If you don't want the divorce try sitting down and talk to him be open and honest (maybe brutally) if you need to be. If working it out isn't an option, keep your head up, if have family talk to them and ask for their support. Most families will help and can be a big help. Good luck sweety, I hope and wish you the best.
2007-03-25 17:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, let me try to explain this quickly, a man's cheating is always, always about his lack of self confidence. In saying that, I do not want to take away the responsibility of the wife in that decision. There are occasions when a wife will perpetuate the situation. REGARDLESS of that, it is HIS DECISION to cheat. Due to the fact that he is arrested in his development, he will cheat, and display narcissistic tendencies. These are all curable and treatable. He needs therapy, as well as prayer. It may not be today, or tomorrow, but he can be healed from this. And.... your marriage can be healed as well. Your heart, can be healed as well.... Get what I am saying, yes, this is VERY BAD BEHAVIOR, you don't have to perpetuate it, be the Godly woman you are, and look for positives in your life that can help turn this situation around. I am just crying for your situation. This is not what God wants! I will keep praying for all 3 of you.
2007-03-26 04:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by cunhvn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, inspite of the undeniable fact that it definitely descibes a self-ordinary azzhole! He does not care approximately any of the youngsters he has sired. nar·cis·sism (när?s?-s?z??m) additionally nar·cism (-s?z??m) n. a million. extreme love or admiration of oneself. See Synonyms at conceit. 2. A psychological undertaking characterised by way of self-preoccupation, loss of empathy, and subconscious deficits in shallowness. 3. Erotic excitement derived from contemplation or admiration of one's very own physique or self, extraordinarily as a fixation on or a regression to an infantile point of progression. 4. The characteristic of the human psyche charactized by way of admiration of oneself yet interior of general limits.
2016-10-19 22:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's much more simple than all of that. You are supposed to be hurt and confused, because you trusted something that wasn't really there. My wife had an affair, too, and gawd, its just gut wrenching. His affair boils down to something very starightforward: He was not mature enough to handle responsibility and commitment. I wish you and your child the best of luck.
2007-03-25 17:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your definatley better off. No you shouldn't feel bad about the divorce even though your pregnant. You and the baby well be way happier without him.
2007-03-25 17:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He appears to have some sort of mental health issue. For your health and the health of your child--count your blessings. He could have drawn this out. Instead he decided to set you free--Hallejuah!
2007-03-25 17:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like y'all both bipolar. what hell narcissism really mean. In my hood we call that sh*t crazy!
2007-03-25 18:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by cilverpenni 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i feel sorry for you, for real
2007-03-25 23:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋