The women who is pregnant with my child left me for some very selfish reasons. I hurt bad, how can I make it stop???
2007-03-25 17:33:01 · 12 answers · asked by chris s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so sorry! Chris, do 1 thing, it is very, very important... make certain you keep in contact with her. Give her her space, let her know that, as this is your child, you will be there through thick and thin. A child needs his/her father you may not ever be able to be with the mother again. Pray for her, pray for your child, pray for you. You need to be the stable one in this child's life. She may be being very selfish right now. You may be surprised what she could see in another year or even just 6 months. Don't quit! Don't give up, this is your child, and it is going to be an awesome human being, that you are going to love and nurture and help grow into a fantastic person! Good luck, you can do this!!!
2007-03-26 15:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by cunhvn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's much easier said than done. As I currently go through a divorce after only being married a couple of months, I am led to believe that my husband requested a divorce because he wants to go back to the woman that he left for me. I too, am pregnant, scared, and hurt. However, there are things that you can do to take your mind off of it, not so much to take the pain right away, but to ease the pain and make it easier to cope with day by day. Although I am a Christian and love God, when I began realizing that my husband was still flirting around with temptation from his past, I would go to a reggae spot. I really like reggae. I also attend a lot of church. When the money or the companion pass is available, I also travel. I read, walk, socialize with friends and family (when I can hide some of my feelings), and so forth. The pain will not go away right away because you're hurt and your love is real. The woman who left you while being pregnant has some issues to deal with of her own. If she isn't a person to adhere to 'morals,' or simply put 'the right thing,' your 'talk therapy' and 'pleading requests' won't bring her back either. Take it day by day and step outside of the box. I know that there's a better life...for both of us even though we hurt.
2007-03-25 17:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by PEACHFACE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry for you. The only thing that seems to help is time and telling her how you feel to yourself. That pent up emotional baggage you have needs to be released in a way that doesn't harm anyone else. take some time to vent by yourself to burn off some of the emotions or write a letter. These are things I used to start the healing with an upcoming divorce (long story).
Good luck...it will get better
2007-03-25 17:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by fromorto12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With time. Prayer and not worrying about a person you can't change. What woman leaves the father of her baby for a small thing? If you gonna think about something, try to figure out what sense does that make. Make sure you get a blood test, when the baby is born.
2007-03-29 16:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are a lot of things you can do. You can talk to understanding people till you are sick of hearing yourself in hopes of puzzling it out and understanding. You can seek counselling and hopefully figure things out and lead a healthy life with healthy future relationships. You can let it eat you alive until your bitter and dried up and totally miserable. Either option is a choice and with any of these choices you will still feel pain. Point being... I am sorry, the reality of the situation is that it is going to take time but what happens in the future is up to you. Good luck.
2007-03-25 17:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by jaided_icemaiden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make it stop. It's stops........ when it stops. Take it day by day. Do stuff. Go out. Be with friends when you can. Don't try to do this by yourself. You need the support of friends and/or family. Someday it won't hurt so bad. Sorry dude.
2007-03-25 17:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by tokyo_brwn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is your child you have equal rights--you fight for joint custody. She can't just decide to leave and not let you be a part of your child's life. Only time can heal the pain of an ended relationship. You must go on for your child. Don't let her deprive you.
2007-03-25 17:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. I know it is a cliche, but it is true. Move on with your life. Focus on the birth of your baby. There is no love like the love for your child. Your heart will be full again.
2007-03-25 17:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain will go away in time. Unfortunately you can not make someone love you or want you. And the pain feels like someone is ripping your insides out. Pray and try to be with friends to get through it.
2007-03-25 17:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by Justme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it, go out, spend time with friends, have a drink. Anything to divert your attention from her.
2007-03-25 17:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋