I left my husband because he left out bed 8 months ago and sleeps on the sofa. I think he is cheating on me but have no proof. Since I moved out he does not answer my calls and he never calls me on his own. I have poured my heart out to him been so broken and crying that I could not hardly even walk and he will not ask me back into his life he acts so cold towards me. I am so confused over this situation
2007-03-25 17:30:35 · 10 answers · asked by Justme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Justme,,
You’re trying to communicate with him. For whatever reason husband is refusing to communicate, trying to shut him self off. That is the one thing you can’t force him to do, regardless of how bad you want to understand-communicate, or just have closure over this divorce issue. He has to want to communicate you just can’t force him. He is just waiting at this point for you to close him out of your life, so he doesn’t have to face you and explain his actions-behaviors-etc…
You have reached the point, (obviously he’s closed you out) where you have to fend for yourself, protect yourself, and have a good enough opinion of yourself to engage in “SELF PRESEVRATION!” regardless of his actions.
Pick up the pieces of your life, “cowgirl up” and take care of #1,, IF you don’t, no one else will !! There is a GOOD life after this phase in your life, get moving forward with it. Get professional help for yourself if needed. (dang GOOD idea! if nothing else to help with the Closure issues you’re having !!)
Be good to yourself !! Stop running into this same wall,, it’s never going to get better until you stop banging your head !! Ok??
2007-03-25 18:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man seems to not be very caring and to be honest why would you want to go back to someone who is willing to be so cold towards you. Him sleeping on the couch does sound very suss to me and i would recommend hiring a private detective or if you live in america ring cheaters and find out for sure what is going on with this man. My guess is that you gave him exactly what he wanted which was a seperation. The only time a man starts getting cold towards his partner is when the relationship is over and my guess is that you aren't even on his mind. Leave him to his devices and even though it's hard when you obviously still care about him i'm sorry but he seems to be moving on and maybe you should too.
2007-03-25 17:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you left him, then he kinda has a right to see other people. if you didnt want the marriage to end, then you shouldnt have moved out, and you should have talked to him, by yourself, or with someone else, to get down to the real problem... and fix it. i dont know, but id have to say, in some way, you knew it was over, or wanted it to be over, and thats why you left. i hope you guys can fix it, and stay together, because sleeping on the couch is no reason to end a marriage. good luck to both of you.
2007-03-25 17:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by eemolove555 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
File for divorce, seek counseling for support in getting your life back on track and pamper yourself with the things that will make you feel better about yourself. In time, you'll start loving you and someone will see it and do the same. As it should be....
2007-03-25 17:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is confusing? Obviously he wants out of the marriage...all that is left is to find out whether HE is going to file for the divorce or if you are going to.
2007-03-25 17:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he doesnt want to be with u anymore..u have to be strong..dont break your heart over a person who doesnt care for u...tell yourself this.I think its only better for u to move on with your life.But before that..talk to him about everything..face to face.Ask him what he wants..and what he doesnt.It'll sort out things.If he doesn't want the marriage anymore..its no good to hold on to it as if your life depends on it.good luck
2007-03-25 17:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want the divorce.You have to play hard to get.Act cold towards him and if thats doesn't work he wants the divorce.
2007-03-25 17:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by Unknown_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not so confusing to me. Move on... or talk to Him first and clear all things THEN move on.
2007-03-25 17:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by chronically Rejected 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he don't answer your calls, or call you back then he don't want you ... you should just move on ...and find someone who want to be with you
2007-03-25 17:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by Robert G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
counseling :)
2007-03-25 17:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋