Should I call the police on my neighbor's for domestic violence?

Question

They were fighting a half an hour ago. They live above me and I heard all a loud bang an screaming from her. I dont know if he picked her up and threw her. My husband told me not to call and that she should be the one to call. My husband doesnt want to get involved because we just moved in our apt a year now and doesnt want any trouble with anybody.

Answer 1

Yes, call. You can make an anonymous report. If you were being beaten, wouldn't you want someone to call?

Answer 2

The police will not tell them who called only that neighbors were concerned. You have a responsibility to call what if it was not her husband what if someone broke in and did something awful to her? She could be laying up there in all kinds of agony your husband is totally wrong and if you ignore the situation so are you. People that are unwilling to get involved should be able to be charged as accessories after the fact. Make the phone call right now this is not a mater for debate. Get that lady some help right now.

Answer 3

I can see that some people may say, "No, don't get involved, maybe it will make things worse." And you know, sometimes it will get worse. But whether or not you make the call, it will ALWAYS get worse-- until she leaves or she's dead. Maybe the victim needs your help to become a survivor. Maybe she needs to know that someone cares. She is not in a place right now where she is ready to help herself.
When I was in this situation, I would have really appreciated it if someone had called on my ex. I couldn't get to the phone, or I was trying to get him to calm down, I was scared that my call would make him worse, or whatever. Instead, neighbors would bang on the ceiling and tell me to shut up when I was screaming for him to stop hurting me. Or they'd ignore it altogether. When I got kicked out of a car on the freeway, I was grateful to the people who actually stopped to make sure I was alright.
"Not wanting to start any trouble" is a piss poor excuse to not help another human being. If that was your daughter or your mother or your friend or your sister (or any male, yes violence happens to men), what would you want done?

Answer 4

Well, I don't know if I'd answer soon enough, but my advice is that you should wait, if you hear beatings, then you should call the police as anonymous. Because if I were the woman, I would desperately need someone to help me. If there is only screamings, then you should not, because they may only just arguing, and they would be very annoyed. What if by the time the police comes, the problem is already resolved? That's my advice, I don't know if it's the best solution, but that's what I think you should do.

Answer 5

I think you should ring the police. Noone wants to be involved when it comes to domestic violence but someone has to stand up and say that that is not right. What if she can't get to a phone, are you going to wait until she gets seriously hurt before you help her. What if that were happening to you, wouldn't you wonder why noone has rang the police or why noone wants to help and protect you from this. Stand up and say that it is not right, the more people who turn a deaf ear to this problem the more it occurs. Domestic violence is wrong and it's about time we all started letting people who commit this act know that it's wrong hopefully it will start to be realised that this is a bad problem and needs to be stopped.

Answer 6

That's a really hard decision for you to make. I think you should try and talk to the girl and see her situation b4 calling the cops it might make her freak if she's totally afraid of him. I think a lot of people in domestic violence don't call the cops because of whatever reason, but i think if i ever found myself in such situation i'd totally call the cops. cuz when ppl are in the situation they don't see how it could get better. this type of agression causes a lot of problems, emotional ,mental, no duh Physical, it really is a good thing to be free of such menacing people, even if they seem like that's not what they're all about, FACE IT the person has a problem and they need help, and the victim doesn't need to take that kind of ****

Answer 7

Normally, I'd advise you to mind your own business (like your husband said). But, if he bodyslammed her against the floor, so hard that all you heard was a thump and then nothing else, that's serious and you SHOULD call the cops! If he's beating his wife that hard, he needs a reality check (and nothing gives a man clarity about the moral wrong of hitting a woman than a ride in the back of a squad car!)

Answer 8

OMG that is so hard. I would want someone to call if that were me up there. You can always put in a call as anonymous. Then again, if he is a dangerous man, its kinda scary to think what might happen if he thought you guys called on him. Tough choice. Hopefully, if anything is happening, her friends and family will intervene before you have to.

Answer 9

If you suspect domestic violence, you should call the police. This doesn't mean you become directly involved but you may be anonymously responsible for saving some poor woman's life......

Answer 10

I would say try to meet this neighbor and without being obvious try to observe the apartment. Or check her face or exposed skin for any bruises that may look suspious. If you happen to hear the arguement again anytime try to contact her first and then if it looks really bad I would call the police trouble or no trouble that woman may be hurting.

Answer 11

if you feel something is going on, then call the police. no one
need to know who called. if it that loud then all the neigbors
also heard what happen. when you see wrong you need to
do somthing about it. how would you feel if something bad
happen to her and you did nothing. or flip the switch it was
you in same situation.