She is a little overweight, when everyone else in our family is on the thin side. Noone ever makes comments or tries to make her feel bad, but, she makes comments about herself! She doesnt over eat, and tries to eat healthy, and is active. It hurts me to hear her make these comments about herself, as she has so many great qualities! Shes a very caring loving person.
2007-03-25 17:12:53 · 9 answers · asked by seven-11 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No one in our family makes comments, but I suspect some do at school.
2007-03-25 17:14:57 · update #1
she's at a time when self concept is becoming especially important, so even if no one at school said anything, she is aware of the comparison of herself and girls at school, on tv, magazines, etc. if she stays active the weight should come off on its own - in time. it's common for girls to gain weight as they reach puberty, and if she hasn't had a growth spurt her height may catch up to her weight. but this is probably not going to be much consolation in the here and now! it's definitely better not to say anything about it to her; just point out her good qualities whenever possible. and speak to her doctor about what weight loss strategies are appropriate for a growing girl, as she needs good nutrition, esp calcium, at this time!
2007-03-25 17:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by joy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through that in school.
I'd say: give her compliments EVERY time she does something well, make sure she knows she beautiful, and explain to her that she needs to surround herself w/ people who bring her *up* not down.
I'm sure she's a wonderful person *inside & out* but maybe teach her some survival skills for this cruel world. Help her to defend herself & be assertive, not aggressive.
Besides, I'm sure you're doing a wonderful job. Children can be so cruel; sometimes it takes a few years for those immature ones to grow up. I think she'll be fine with a concerned, loving grandma by her side!
2007-03-26 00:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god.....My daughter is the same way...She's just a little overwieght and NO-ONE in my family makes comments...and she tells me no one at school does..but im not so sure about that...Tell her that if she wants to change that it's her choice
2007-03-26 00:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gran daughter is obviously having some self-esteem issues, try talking to her about it- or finding someone who can talk to her, like a professional. She shouldn't be talking about herself in a negative way, she is probably unstable underneath it all.
2007-03-26 00:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by stargirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every once in a while tell her she looks pretty like say you like her hair or something. and tell her shes a good person on the inside. and also dont expose her too much to those skinny models in those high fashion magazines because shell want to be like that too. i recommend watching the tyra banks show. = )
2007-03-26 02:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as im sure you know
dont give up on her each and everyday tell her how special she is
when we dont like ourself then we dont shine
at 11 years old ppl are so mean ppl say such bad stuff she has to know in her heart she is one VERY special girl
she sure has one VERY caring grandmother
Good luck & God Bless
2007-03-26 02:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by terry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she's beautiful no matter what , tell her not to listen to what other people say, who cares what they think, maybe every now and then compliment her on how she looks , i hope she feels better i know what its like to have low self esteem
2007-03-26 00:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
boost he up let her no she isnt all these bag things she keeps saying, g her up boost her confidence by telling her she looks nice.let her no what sort of a person you think she is.
2007-03-26 06:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the first answer.
2007-03-26 01:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by speedy >>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋