help i never know if a guy is gay or not i just need help
2007-03-25 17:12:12 · 12 answers · asked by lookinhard 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
ahhh the art of cruising
ask him where he got those ,,,, shoes, jeans whatever
ask if they were on sale, tell him a stupid story about the last time you needed to buy a ,,,,, whatever, and tell him you wish you had him to shop with....
you dont need to be sexual, just funny and freindly youll figure it out eventually, most strait guys reinforce that they are strait pretty fast if they feel they are being cruised
2007-03-25 17:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by drezdogge 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
here is the biggest tip i can give you about finding out if a guy is gay or not - if you walk past him on the sidewalk or in the mall, if he looks at you in the eye, the chances of him being gay are much, much greater. i've found that gay guys look other guys in the eye when they pass them - straight guys don't. i know this is a broad generalization, and i realize it is not true in every case. but, it is more often true than not.
so, to answer your question, notice how he looks at you. watch his eyes. if you get good vibes from that, then try to make friends with him first. don't just ask if he's gay or wants to hook up or whatever.
2007-03-25 17:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by JD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a gay club, because the majority of men in gay clubs are gay, so you wont offend anyone there. Just don't approach a guy unless you're 100% certain he is gay, I wouldnt want you to get beat up.
2007-03-25 17:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are not more gay white men then black gay men, the reason for gay white mean being more noticeable is that in the black community it is thought to be common for a black man to be straight, and if they are gay it is very hidden because of religious brainwashing that makes people think they need to be "set free from homosexuality" you will notice most black gays do the "used to be gay" but then years later they turn out to be gay again so sad I know. And also if you think a black guy is gay he probably is,, and he doesn't want to come out for fear of thinking he has a devil, and this being a sissy crap.
2016-03-29 05:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the important thing to know is that if he isn't gay, you need to find another guy. Still, hang out with him until he gives a firm answer. XD And having cute straight friends is always cool. =P
2007-03-25 22:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by xdannifenx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its better to find out whether he is gay or not. may be by asking his friend, or just come up to him and ask. just be your self, if he's gay just tell him that you would like to go out with him if he say yes than good for you but if he say no, its not the end of the world, there are a lot of other single guy out there.
2007-03-25 17:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by confused and loving it 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well it really matters on the person who you are telling. some people can be understanding of a persons choice to see the world, no metter their view.
My brother is like that, it was hard for me at first, but i grew to that aspect.
Now if you want someone specific, just talk to them like yourself before you tell that about you being gay.
2007-03-25 17:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by Craig P 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're at a bar, send them a drink from across the room. Ask the server to tell them who its from. If they take the drink, go talk to them. If they don't.. well, you got your answer without anyone getting angry. Hope it works out for you!
2007-03-25 17:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to develop your gaydar. Talk to other gays about how to do it. If you don't know that someone is gay, leave him alone.
2007-03-25 17:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would just let them approach me, it can be an aggressive homophobic
2007-03-25 17:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by Latina_Rica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋