I have these 2 friends, Haley and Kelly. I really like them as friends and they used to be bffs but then they started fighting, and getting back together. now they have been fighting 4 a long time and over the horizen i see more fighting. I still want to be friends with them, but, at times it seems they want me to HATE the other girl. One of them i have been friends with since...4 years ago and the other...this year, the whole school year. And it seems that at times they want me to pick who to hang out with, not to mention Jane,who i hang out in my free time at school (and gets insanly jealous if i hang out with Haley or Kelly). But i don't know what to do. I feel like i might explode!!!! I'm getting torn 3 ways!!!!!!! HELP PLZ!!!!
2007-03-25 16:53:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A true friend will not make you choose between her and someone else nor would they be jealous because you have other friends. It is wonderful to have many friends.
2007-03-25 17:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by sassysusie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immature. You need to realize what being a friend really is. Seems like u are not a friend a user for your needs. You have assoc. it might turn u on seeing people fight to be with u. What u do to others will come back to get u. Stop this foolishness and be a descent young girl. You need the popularity which means nothing in the end. You could end up in your crave at an early age playing with foolish games. Watch as well as pray.
2007-03-25 17:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there babe!! the only thing you can do is tell them both that your friends with both of them and if they have a problem with it then they aren't true to your values. You are a better person by not talking about one another while the other is away, it gets you nowhere. I look up to girls who stick up for themselves first then it comes time to deal with catty women. If they cant see where you are coming from I can tell you this you will have many many more friends that will come into your life and bring you just as much joy as your old friends that you knew since you were younger. When one talks about the other tell them to get over it there are plenty other things to worried about. You will make it just stick to your ground and they will appreciate you some day. :)
2007-03-25 17:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by litmohrly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are being torn it is because you're trying to please everyone else. They will not like you better for the attempt to be best friends with each of them. You need to make up your own mind who you want to spend time with at any given time. You are not dating these girls you're just hanging out with each other you do not owe them an explanation about who your other friends are or what you are doing when you are not with them A true friend would just be happy that you have more than one friend and delighted to know that you did not consider them responsible for your happiness. If they are not happy with those fact then each of them needs to broaden her own circles and you need to encourage them to do so.
2007-03-25 17:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that U should sit the both of them down and talk to them. Ask them why they don't like each other, and explain to them that it's hurting you to have to choose between them. If they continue with their same ways then you need to cut them loose and find new friends. But its always good to be honest with your best friends they might respect you more by you standing up and saying your not going to take being pulled from one person to another.
2007-03-25 17:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by shashuna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation more than once sweety and believe me it is no fun! I think that if they are trying to get you to hate the other you just need to confront them both and tell them you don't want any part of this and to understand that you are friends with (fill in name) and they can't change that. You still will love and hang out with them equally but don't vent to you. That should help and if they are your true friends thay will understand. 2 of my BEST friends did exactly that. Just hang in there! I'm sorry sweetie!
2007-03-25 17:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by hereforyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start hanging with Jane more.. that way your not caught up in the war between your other friends. Tell them straight out it's not your problem and your not getting involved ..if they don't listen to you..stop tlakingto both of them for awhile until they patch things up.
Sit them both down together and tell them I'm not picking sides and both of you are selfish b!tches for making me chose between my two best friends. And until you grow up and make nice don't bother me with your pitty fights.
2007-03-25 17:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, that's not okay.
The next time one of those girls tells you they want you to hate someone or not hang out with someone, tell them to knock it off and stop being controlling, and if they don't, you won't be hanging out with them.
That might make you lose a friend or two, but at least your sanity will be intact.
2007-03-25 16:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well all i can say iz 2 sit all of them down and tell then 2 tell eachohter what they like and dislike about each person including themselves and explain that you wanna 2 be friends with all 3 of dem but that they cant be mad if you hang out with a different person it iz ur decision
2007-03-25 16:59:35 · answer #9 · answered by lil sweets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play this silly game. Be brave enough to tell them they are being childish and you don't need any of their company if they continue to act like that. Find a hobby or other friends. Grow on your own if your friends won't grow with you.
Cheers,
Lisa
2007-03-25 16:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋