What do you think goes through a man's head if a woman tells him she was sexually abused as a child? This is considering that both the man and woman are mature 30 somethings. Is he afraid the abuse will have made her crazy and destructive or are most men more open minded and compassionate than that? The woman in question didn't just tell the man this out of the blue, he was telling her about someone he loved who'd been abused and she offered up her own story of abuse in order to shed some light on the issue. Now she's afraid he'll think differently of her, or be judgemental without even realizing it.
2007-03-25 16:46:34 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i was sexually abused, and this is one of the things that tell me whether a guy is worth knowing or not....if he' weird about it...judgemental or without compassion, he's got to go!
2007-03-25 16:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Queenie Peavey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm
having been sexually abused as a child myself i have thought the same thing when disclosing it, but in the end i have come to the conclusion that since millions of people have been abused like that and not millions of people have turned into rageful serial killers or child molesters or just nutjobs, im ok to disclose
i agree with the earlier that it is in HOW you disclose, if you are emotional and freaked out when doing it he might think it has effected you and obvioulsy it has, it does,
but if you are calm and matter of fact, then you shoudlnt have anything to worry about, maybe he was too and its something that can bring you closer there are ways people disclose without using the first person
so good luck,
2007-03-26 00:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by drezdogge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree if the person who did the abusing is around - your man might be the one to go crazy and hurt this other guy (paedophiles deserve a good kicking in)
Umm, i'm female, if my bf told me that he'd been abused as a child by anyone, i'd go after them with a knife (maybe not) but i'd make their life hell. there's no excuse for sexual abuse on anyone, specially children.
my friend told her bf she'd been abused, and he took it well. It's always good to share something like this.
Good luck and sorry. (if this is about you)
2007-03-25 23:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the person that did the abuse is still around, that will cause some problems i imagine, i would just let the woman know that she is safe in my arms forever, and that id never allow anything to happen to her
2007-03-25 23:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by sofmatty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The woman has serious problems. She is either regressive (she isn't ready, nor she will ever be ready for a committed relation due to psychological reasons) or she is a tease. (manipulative, self centered, etc)
She is to be left alone regardless of her situation.
2007-03-25 23:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋