Is it possible to fall in love with a good friend outside of marriage?

Question

Just curious, is it possible to fall in love with a friend who is going through the same situation as you are in a marriage to fall in love? What I am trying to say is, I have been in a marriage for 18 years, spouse is very sick. I can't have a sexual relationship with my husband because of medical problems and we are arguing all the time. We constantly disagree on things, don't like the same stuff, therefore we are totally opposite on beliefs and activities. I have a friend that is in the same situation we been talking for the past two years. Never had a sexual relationship with my friend. Could it turn into a closer/sexual relationship and more? His wife is sick also and no sex. What you all think?

Answer 1

sweetie all things are possible if you put them into motion.My advice to you would be not to go there.Keep him as a friend because it could very well be sympathy that you are feeling and putting guilt and sex into play would probably not be a good idea.If you personally want to leave your husband then do it because it's what you want and not because you think you're in love with the friend.He may or may not feel the same way as you do and he might truly be willing to stick around with his wife until the end.Remember those wedding day vows.Remember how much you loved him and how things were before he got sick.Use those feelings to fall back in love with him and be there for him as long as your heart allows.Good luck in whatever decision you make.

Answer 2

I think that anything is possible, after 18 years of marriage, and with a sick spouse, you have turned to this man for comfort since he is going through the same thing. It could turn into more than "just friends" but the question remains - do you both want that? What were to happen if one of your spouses got better, and things worked out between you and your husband or he and his wife? Do you feel that if you and your friend were to have more than just a friendship, and if things didnt work out between you two, would you still talk? Would things still be the same between you two? If things were not to work out and you did not go back to being friends, you would not share that same feeling with anyone else, because your other friends might not be going through the same thing you have been.

Answer 3

I am not a man but i'll answer this. first, i think there is no perfect marriage. so deep inside some people's heart, there is always something missing. whether it's major or minor, it varies to each person. and i think whether you have a perfect marriage has nothing to do with the possiblity of falling in love with others. your heart can swing, your mind can be weak, your past can interfere, your maturity can be in check, and the attraction may be fatal. there are billions of reasons that you can fall in love with someone else outside your marriage. it's more of a matter whether you are strong and rational enough to hold your heart back and consider for others. hope you find the answers you want!

Answer 4

It's easier to feel close to those you can relate to. Having someone to share your thoughts and feelings with it probably a real blessing to you. As to the sexual relationship, any relationship can turn into a sexual one if both parties want that and allow it to become that way. It's up to you and your friend mainly. If you should or should not allow it to turn sexual is up to you. Could you live with having sex outside of your marriage? Is you spouse the type of person that would look the other way and let you be as he/she can no longueur assist you with that? It's a personal decision..

Answer 5

Yes it is possible. But put yourself in your husband's shoes. Would you want him to run off with another woman while you are sick? That would be cheating. Just because you are having some minor differences doesb not mean your marriage is over. Make sure before you act if you just know that you are in love with this other person, then you need to be thinking divorce, because eventually you are going to act on those feelings. It will start showing up to in how you act around your spouse and he will notice they change in you.

Answer 6

Listen, a relationship and its dynamic all change when the spouse becomes the caregiver. This is a rough road to run. As far as the relationship go with your gut relay emotions to each other and make sure you both have an open ear and a shoulder to help out. To sum it up you need to feel for you also, do what you feel is best.

Bri

Answer 7

anything is possible, but both of you took the marriage vows
to love , honor through sickness and in health. think about
that the next time you both talk, there nothing wrong with
having a friend.but keep it there.

Answer 8

ever hear of in sickness and in heath? ring a bell? i hope you don't run of with mr my spouse is sick too. because if you ever get sick like she did he;ll leave you for his friend consider the kind of person your friend is and what kind of person you are and no wonder you fight with your husband all the time YOU are resentful to him for being sick something he can't control and wanting to leave him i feel sorry for him sick or not he can do better.

Answer 9

It is possible. But everything that is possible is not right or reasonable.

Both of you would be violating the promises you made if you engage in a sexual relationship.

Answer 10

Sorry completely immoral unless you guys hook-up after both of your spouses have gone to the pearly gates! Remember till t death do us part in sickness and health!