Does everyone believe that every gay person was born that way and how much does it matter?

Question

I actually believe that it is possible people can be born with biological differences that pre-determines what sex they will be attracted to. If people can be born with both sexual organs, then why wouldn't it be possibe? However I believe that it is an anomaly and doesn't happen that often. Although they are still in the monority, I find it hard to believe all gay people were born that way. I think there are different factors that lead people to participate in a gay life style. For instance how can a completely heterosexual man go to jail get sexually assaulted and then come out and act 100% feminent. Or less extreme examples would be; being rejected a lot by the opposite sex, simply found the lifestyle fascinating or interesting, or just a person who's sexually adventurous. Some scientists say we are all on a spectrum anyway ranging from very hetero-to-homosexual-true?. So if a person lives much of their adult life and finally figure out they are gay could the opposite be also true?

Answer 1

It doesn't matter

Answer 2

Various societies throughout history have had different
levels of acceptance of homosexuals...
Varying from complete acceptance to outright rejection..
It has only been in the past 10 yrs. that we have actually
scientifically known that Homosexuality, for the most part
is an anomaly / birth defect....No more a personal choice
than Heterosexuality...Except in the case of "Bi" women
which is a cultural phenomenon.
Of course anti-gays do not want to accept that it is a birth
defect because they want it to be a matter of personal choice
so they can condemn them as perverts and Gays do not want
to admit it is a birth defect because the don't want to be thought of as "defective"...So very few accept it, for biased personal reasons, and the animosity continues within our society.
Sheeeeesh, get over it, A tempest in a teapot is what it is...

Answer 3

hehe its strange that you say this. heh I've had fights (not really fights) disagreements with people because for some reason i just really do NOT think you are born gay.

But its been scientifically proven, so it's probably right!!

I think in some instances, lifestyle does play a part - and maybe (taking the science into account) that maybe its just because they've been through such a hard time they "think" they're homosexual.

i dunno, personally i dont believe you're born that way.

Answer 4

i believe different people are gay for many different reasons and yes i am gay and i wasn't born gay i turned after being molested but i knew i was gay at the age of 5 born with it i don't know but i know what i know im gay and to me whether or nt i was born with it doesn't matt to me i am who i am

Answer 5

Some people are born gay and some people choose it.(view source)

I personaly believe that no one is 100% either way.

Answer 6

I was born gay...why on earth would I lie about it?

Answer 7

Hi Terry,

You have picked an interesting question and one that I have often found myself contemplating the possibilities of gay men in particular being born that way. I have had a few boyfriends who were bisexual and therefore why it has fascinated me as well as disturbed me sometimes in the past and used to blame myself for never being sexually attractive enough etc, but I am a pretty good looking woman and have found that gay and bisexual men have both fancied me in the past and possibly because looks do play a huge part in sexual attraction regardless of gender?.

This is why I have struggled at time to accept that gay people are born that way and because even gay men can be rejected by their looks by another gay man and happens quite frequently on the gay scene as well as there being men who just want to have domination over a less assertive male is also very very true in my experiences. I am pretty certain that there are a lot of power issues that go on in the gay world as in the straight world too and because attraction and human connection is also largely about domination is true in the lives of human and animal beings.

If bisexual men like both sexes and have frequent encounters with men and women for example which is often the case in the bisexual world in my experiences, then do they also have a brain dysfunction?. I would have to disagree and mostly because in my discussions with both gay and bisexual men, I have often been met with such a mixed response and there are by far more bisexual men and confused men than gay men around and even gay men who are also confused and not decided.

I have also met men who were sexually abused as children and who were confused by their sexual identity as a result and given that to date, there are 1 in three adults that have been sexually abused as children, the figure has steadily increased over time and more and more men are coming out as gay or bisexual who admit that being abused as children had a lot to do with it. It is also the case that many have had absent fathers and or had abusive mothers. I have met so many gay and bisexual men to know what I am talking about and what I have experienced for myself is not what I hear gay men go on about the rest of the time.

There are too many contradictions and many are attracted to women I can tell you!. I would agree that as human beings and animals, we are genetically born bisexual for certain and because our need for domination and control is inherent and strong and we are by nature a polygamous kind of people but because of how civilized we have become, we are meant to act and behave according to the rules of the society we live in. We justify our sexual preferences and behaviors so that we can be liberated and form groups to protect our sexual identity.

I am straight but if I have ever thought of another woman, it would be to conquer some part of her that I admire or find challenging for instance and how I am pretty sure men think of other men. It is an instinctual urge to want to possess another and that is all that sexual attraction surmounts to for anyone but feelings and emotions are a modern and conditioning element to how we interpret who we are and why we are and why we cannot be gay.

We are therefore only referring to a sexual act because the emotions are what we have been taught when we are still primal beings living in a literate world of science and language and at an early age, nurtured to associate action with a feeling. What went before language is a highly impressionable and inexpert infant who has no preference when it hasn't choice. I cannot agree about it being a womb thing or a chemical thing but in fact, an early response to the behavior and or availability of the parents involved and how many children have genuinely had idyllic childhoods?.

Paternal and maternal deprivation is at the heart of a lot of adult dysfunction in society as it stands and child abuse is rampant in all spheres of society, so what portion of gay life is born out the womb and not choice?. The genuinely healthy born and raised must have had mothers and fathers that were very nurturing and why the gay men that deny their sexuality was born out of parental issues confuse the hell out of me because then what they are saying is that all healthy raised adults must therefore be gay and not out of choice?. We should all therefore by nature be gay but our dysfunctional up-bringing has blighted our chances of being gay!.

They are so sure that they were all born that way and yet so why not every single other human being???????????????

Their arguments never stand up for me and not because I am anti-gay at all, but have an inquiring mind and it has formed a large part of my own life to want to question such issues when I have known a lot of gay men who were sexually attracted to me. There is far more curiosity than certainty I believe and that is experimental and eventually lifestyle for some and just confusion for others.

I was friends with two very gay movement men once and both were sexually attracted to me despite the fact that they were very adamant that they were gay. I also knew a lecturer who was 100% gay and once told me he wanted me to hit on him and then later told me I was turning him straight! - you can't turn a gay man straight if he is born that way. I also have had two bisexual boyfriends and knew around 200 gay and bisexual men from when I went to the rainbow events and all of them were neither certain about their sexuality or claimed to be and not.

As for it doesn't matter, then maybe we should stop being interested in the human race and stop questioning the most fascinating of all subjects around and sexuality as with humanity is everything that we least understand and are compelled to understand.

This is just what I know so would be very interested in finding out what other people say?.

Answer 8

I was born a lesbian..... END OF DISCUSSION!!