I really want to finish college and be well rooted in my work and all before I marry, but I will be around 30 something by then. Do you think that is really late to marry?
2007-03-25 16:37:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One part of me wants to marry and the other doesn't. I am purdy sure I don't want kids. I want a quiet and romantic atmosphere with my wife. One part of me wants to know what love is like and have that special someone to share everything with, the other just wants to be career driven and do that the rest of my life. I know that I can be faithful and a good husband, I just haven't found anyone yet. I'm a rather quiet and somewhat of a loner. I think my habits are repulsive to females. The only thing with a mate is all the social stuff they expect from you. I don't mind certian things but the whole family thing I am not sure about. I want it but at the same time everything will become a lot noisier than I am use to. I guess I will have to outweigh the bad with the good aspects of marriage, that's if I persue it. I want a mate, I really do.
2007-03-25 16:57:54 · update #1
i think 27 and over is perfect.
2007-03-25 16:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by sandibum 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that is the perfect time to think about marriage. Any earlier and you haven't truly become the person you want to be and will remain pretty much the rest of your life until after 30. What I mean is we change so much during the ten years from 19 to 29 that all too often the couple grows apart...one grows up the other doesn't...or they grow up and then you figure out that you don't even like the person let alone love him/her anymore. Follow your plan and you will be better prepared for the commitment that is marriage.
2007-03-25 23:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two children, girls... I made them promise at a young age that they would not marry until they were at least 28 years old.
I know, it was a child promise, so they might not stay true to it... but I do believe 28 is a good marriage age for girls. Maybe tack on a couple years for guys, as women usually date men a couple years older than they are.
By 28 usually you know what you want and have "grown up" enough to have a sincere and serious relationship. You are less apt to fly off the handle and more secure with yourself as a person.
2007-03-26 00:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by Steffi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is best to happen around the age of 40. Than you won't fall into nothing that you will regret later on in life. That woman that you might want to marry right now may not be the right one later on down the road. Take your time on marriage even though a lot of your friends are in a marriage. Your friends that are in a marriage right now might look good, but it really isn't. Don't fall into the same trap as I did.
2007-03-25 23:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not before 21. I think for someone in a hurry, 22-25 is about right, after that any age is good. If u plan on having children, u want to be able to enjoy them and keep up with all the activities involved with child rearing, so don`t wait until middle age !!
2007-03-25 23:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no!! In fact that is becoming a trend now for people, especially women who are career minded, to wait. What is the worst thing in waiting? And what could be the worst in going ahead and doing it now with question of uncertainty? It sounds like you are using your thinking part to sort this out but some feelings (?) or societal standards (?) are present, too. Look at others who are already married in your circle. Are they struggling yet? Unhappy? Don't be the statistic. Good luck!
2007-03-25 23:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by bjh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends;it's best to do so when your career is stable, but other than that I can't think of any hard and fast criteria for a timetable. Even career stability isn't a must though; my sister got married just out of high school, and because she lived at home through college she was able to pull it off. Her husband had a good job by the time she graduated, and she got one as well.
2007-03-25 23:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not late at all i married young and it didn't work out partly because of being too young. I have told my second husband many times if our kids marry before 25 i just don't even want to go to the wedding as i would still see them as baby's in the world. No your smart to have waited it sometimes workd out when a couple marries yound but that is very rare. Godbless you.
2007-03-25 23:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think marrying young is best, that way you can finish "growing up" together and will always have so much in common, common experiences and attitudes. But by 30 I think maybe ppl are to set in their single ways and adapting to being part of a couple is too much stress, causes breakups. But unless you meet that right person early in life, just do the best you can when you finally do get a mate.
2007-03-25 23:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
For a man, 30; for a woman, anywhere between 22 and 30. Some people do get married for their first time when they are way past 30; you are never too old.
2007-03-25 23:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by supertop 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their is no best age to marry. As long as you know that you found the right person and he is your soul mate. I was married at 19 and my husband is 12 years older than me. I was able to finish college and have a lovely daughter. As long as he supports and respects your priorities, that's what counts.
2007-03-25 23:55:23 · answer #11 · answered by babylvr69 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋