My best friend met a new friend about a month ago & since then they have seen each other almost every day. Every time I call she's either hanging out w/ this person or going to hang out w/ her. She assures me that she is still my friend, but it doesn't change the fact that the new person now gets priority. We can't even hang out together w/out her inviting this other person along or texting her throughout our time together. When we do get together w/out her, my friend is always extremely late because she has been out w/ this other girl and then ends up having to cut the evening short because she got to wherever we were meeting so late. I am feeling very jealous and trying not to show it, but she senses it & has started to lie about how much time she spends w/ this person. Despite telling her that this all makes me unhappy, I'm not sure what else to do at this point except ask strangers for advice. (BTW, I don't like the new girl at all; she's dull and creepy).
2007-03-25 16:31:36 · 12 answers · asked by squishy b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's not cheating. You are not dating her. It's possible she has lots in common with the new girl. It's hard not to be jealous. I remember my best friend would make friends with other girls and spend less time with me sometimes (back in our school days). It was no fun feeling like I ws second best to whoever she was spending time with. I just made it a point to become closer to one of my other friends and spend more time with them. Don't smother your best friend. You could lose her. I'm still BFF with my pal. We've know eachoher since the 4th grade and are now 30 years old (I know that's like really old...don't remind me kiddo). Try not to let your jealousy make you say mean things about the "other" girl. Spend time with other fun people. Maybe you can have a party and invite your best friend, her new pal and 2 or 3 other fun people.
2007-03-25 16:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by wishtodream 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
find a new best friend, but don't be mean about it. just see if another one of your friends would like to hang out with you instead when this one is busy. don't be mad or anything. i was in a similar situation back my freshman year in hs......my best friend stopped just about everything with me, she became extremely distracted when we were together, and up until recently i didn't realize what had happened, we just kinda grew apart. she and i didn't share many interests any more and we had been growing apart for a while, she was just bold enough to find other people with the same interest. try joining a club or something that interests you and meet people there who share the same interest. i know i am using the word interest a lot, and i guess i appologize for that, but maybe that's the only thing. just please don't do what i did and stop hanging out with her because of it. i lost a good friend because i was upset at her. i felt like she abandoned me since i didn't have many friends. you're friend isn't abandoning you, she's just finding other people who have more in common whith her. and that's normal, and actually healthy. so do your self a favor and see if you don't have more in common with someone else. but like i said before, please don't be mean about it.
2007-03-25 16:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by genmarie04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. I had the same sh!t happend to me with friends all the time. Ok first thing you gotta realize is that it's not your loss but your friends loss for replacing you. I have went through the same **** all my life. I got so down from them treating me like i was worthless I started to believe it...but it's not true ok. Now this is gonna be hard but you have to pretend like this is not bothering you..if you become jealouse and angry with her for having a new friend she will push you away more to where she won't ever talk to you again.
It most be hard though as she might be one of your only friends...You have to try to make new friends..go to dances or parties and just ignore her. like when she says we'll hang ouy say whatever .. You probably drop everything your doing to hang out with her huh...next time she makes plans with you make something up and blow her off...after awhile she'll get the hint shes been treating you like crap.
If you need to talk you can contact me I know what ur going through. we can talk and stuff. I'll help you.
2007-03-25 16:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont judge your friend's new friend about being dull and creepy. Ask yourself why all this things are happening. There are reasons for sure, and you know it. Reasons that's hard to accept and understand. Just be happy for your friend and hope that she'll be happy always.
2007-03-25 16:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by dale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to explain that you need time with her as well, that you miss the times you guys hung out together, or try to get together as a group if you can. If you really cant stand the new girl, cheat on your best bud as well, make her realize how much she needs you.
2007-03-25 16:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Add this third person as your friend, so you can all hang out together.
Find a new best friend.
Life rule #1, you have no friend better than yourself.
2007-03-25 16:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by FCabanski 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight fire with fire....find yourself a new friend to hang out with,and don't see or speak to your friend for a while. then she will get the hint about why you don't hang out with her anymore,true friends always come back..so just sit back and wait till she gets bored with this new friend...in the mean time go hang out with somebody else... hope it will all work out for you in the end!!!!
2007-03-25 16:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't call that "cheating" unless you're a gay couple with an exclusivity agreement! You may have been supplanted as 'best' friend by this new person. It happens.
2007-03-25 16:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so provide the guy a time shrink; 2 weeks he tells her via then or you tell her! you do no longer prefer to enable ur bff date somebody who cheats on her and the does not have the coronary heart to guy up and tell her! besides secrets and techniques get out! in case you or him do no longer tell her quickly she would desire to pay attention it in the direction of the "grape vine" and that would desire to be the main hurtful!!
2016-12-08 11:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by gandarilla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you good at hiding bodies? But, seriously, it's time to start widening your circle of friends and finding some one else for the title "Best" friend.
2007-03-25 16:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by Hummingbird HI 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋