A lot of young late high school/college-aged people seem to have a pretty well-developed system of ideals for themselves to live by, but they lose it later on. Why?
2007-03-25 16:24:52 · 9 answers · asked by rambling vine 3 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Also, if life "beats it out of you", does that mean young people are wrong, or do people just get tired?
2007-03-25 17:53:25 · update #1
Life beats it out of you.
Seriously, people can keep their ideals as they age, but they just get more realistic about how to achieve them.
2007-03-25 16:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by robot_hooker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't think idealism goes anywhere. It would be more likely that associating with others is the underlying influence.
It's like the old question of whether some people are naturally born bad. A bit like the rotten apple in the case, sends all the others bad.
If you lose your focus, or set of standards that you were raised with, you also lose your motivation.
This is where confidence comes in to play, and staying on track, even when others are trying to knock you down.
Where does youthful idealism go ? Onwards, and upwards, if you are strong.
2007-03-26 02:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by jemima 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when one breaks out of high school/college they are gunge ho to be the special one that will change the world, then little by little, for most they begin to look around and realize they are not all that special, but average. It breaks your heart and extinguishes the fire inside you. So one gets a 9 to 5, floats a mortgage for a family home, and life goes on.
2007-03-29 22:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life can beat you down and crush your idealism. Also kids have a lot of what appears to be idealism that's really just self delusion based on inexperience. As they get older they begin to see they were mistaken or it will be much harder than they ever imagined. Instead of being spurred to action it deflates them.
2007-03-25 23:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by MissWong 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the real sign of maturity is letting idealism go for the realization that the world is a beutiful no matter who or where we are dispit its evils and all the horrible things we suffer and deal with
2007-03-26 04:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by STL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think of all the things they are going to try
which they will probably (at least initially) fail at.
Relationships.
Jobs.
They discover that although Mom and Dad think
they are special, none of the rest of the world does.
They pay their first taxes.
2007-03-25 23:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is to look at political views among young adults. theyre highly influenced by their parents public agenda on most things. ppl tend to vote together and on the same things. when theyre off to college they surrounded by ppl of different ideology and this changes their perspective if not makes them doubt their family values. when they reach their prime and have children they transform into their parents. now they have more responsibility with kids and stuff; like the saying goes.... its hard to take ones life but its harder to watch your own child take his life well i just made that one up but its probably copied from somewhere. they dont necessarily lose "it" itll always be apart of them like college parties who they are but now they must weigh which is more important for their children its sad really cuz we all have to grow up some time for those who refuse to can miss out alot of stuff like having a family not to say that all adults act their age
2007-03-26 08:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by SpecialGuy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I find that the idealism remains, but that the help one can realistically bring to bear might be on a less grand scale than hoped for. :))
2007-03-25 23:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by drakke1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the most efficacious agents of social control- work and families.
2007-03-26 00:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by mcd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋