I'm trying to be myself at school, but everyone just seems to keep shoving me to one side. I haven't done anything to offend anyone. I moved to american about 4 years ago, when i was ten. I'm now in 8th grade and its always been the same! I'm shy...really shy. And i always feel like being myself isn't good enough. If i make a joke or try to be more out-going, it usually ends if major embaressment. Help! What do i do?!
2007-03-25 16:22:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You poor thing!!! :(
I know how you feel. I moved to England 10 years ago , when i was 11 years old. I still dont fit in. I still havent made any friends. The ones i made, left the country or just lost contact somehow. It is really misreable trying to change yourself just to talk to ppl and fit in.
I think you should try to overcome your shyness, altho i personally think thats cute in a girl, but you got to stand up for yourself and be confident. Everyone around you have their own insecurities believe it or not. So your not alone, you just cant see what others go through.
For me, i find it hard to fake things. Im a silient kinda guy, but i have my hyper moments. Yet i still havent made friends to hangout with.
My advise, be yourself. Dont over analyse what you do or over analyse situations. Just stop, and enjoy every moment. Someone will pick up the vibe and you will get respect for that. Fake people are usually most popular cos they suck up enough to reach that way. trust me, they arent happy. how can a human be happy lying to him/herself??
Be yourself, develop your confidence. Join a club of your interest, look for people just like you around you. Dont think about changing yourself, only develop yourself. Everyone has their own sense of humour. There is no reason to feel emabaressed. There is no one thing that makes everyone laugh in the first place.
Altho this is harder to do then to say, dont try to please others. Be polite, but thats it, theres no reason you need to bend backwards for others, this will only make your self image worse.
You sound like a decent person tho, so be yourself :)
best of luck! x
2007-03-25 16:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by WPReviews 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead Of Trying To Make New Friends With Everyone try to Make Ones with People that Have The Same Things In Common With You And You Will Be O.K Trust Me I Was The Same Way But I found Friends That Had A lot In Common With Me So Don't Worry About It Just Keep Your Head Up And Stay Proud Of Your Self
2007-03-25 23:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by diamondsisgood2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found that placing my daughters and son's in Tae Kwon Do was a great way for them to build confidence and gain self esteem. Perhaps you could talk to your parents regarding attending.. Or , Ballet.. that too they liked. I even joined them in Tae Kwon Do.!..
maybe joining some clubs if the school has, that is a great way too.
In our religion the children were able to give talks / public speaking abilities when learned young can help to build confidence and get over being shy as well.
I know it is hard at times when young.. i was really shy when young myself.. as i got older i realized.. a lot of the other kids were really afraid and shy too of making dumb comments or doing something silly.. guess what.. ? RELAX .. be yourself. because that is the person they need to really see. YOU.. not a carbon copy of everyone else. ANd, i learned if i tried too hard to fit in, i usually did make a dumb mistake.. I just learned to go with the flow so to speak.
Find your best subject your interested in.. and go for it..
Talk to your parents. i am sure they can give you tons of suggestions too.. they didn't come into this world all grown up, they too were young once.
there are books too in library's and book stores on how to have conversations.. ask the librarian which ones to read.
I joined public speaking debates when in high school . that was scary at first , but later i loved it.! It helped me to... relax ..
when you have confidence in yourself.. it shows in everything you do.. You first need to believe in YOU.. YOU are a unique and special person.. with the ability to do anything the world has to offer, if you only believe in yourself.. and have faith and courage..
Have you ever seen the movie "the Princess Diaries ", by Disney? I recommend you watch..
you'll do fine.. I know you will.. .
2007-03-25 23:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by miladyfaire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean....bin there,done that. The only thing I can say that you are better off being yourself. I was lucky,I found a few people that were feeling the same way. We had are little group.
2007-03-25 23:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just continue being yourself and someday you will not be shy anymore and all who do not accept you the way you are, stay away from them they are not good for you and continue seeking better friends.
2007-03-25 23:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well yoo know waht fuuck thuh heters and just be yherself . yher truee friends will yoo who yoo really are when thuh rest of thuh worl taught that yoo were invisiblee . ahaa "quote" =]
2007-03-25 23:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋