Divorce, Pregnancy, & God?

Question

As I prepare to leave my home state for a little while, has anyone been pregnant & their spouses cheated on them? Did they get a divorce? How do you prepare spiritually, mentally, & emotionally to be a single parent? I know that God has worked many miracles, but for some strange reason I am eagerly trying to figure out exactly what it is that God wants me to learn as I divorce my husband? I do not hate God nor am I truly angry with God. What I don't understand is why God would let me open my heart up to a man who's heart perhaps was with someone else & let him get away for a while with being okay with hurting his wife? My husband even went as far as saying that he would rather not see his child and get a divorce from me after only 8 months of marriage. Now I wasn't an angel-high-strung, head strong, & now emotional with the pregnancy. But my husband knew I loved him and wanted nothing but to be loved after I said I do. Is moving out of state a bad thing?

Answer 1

You have so many questions all wrapped up in one here... where to start? I think that God will stir us which way to go in life, but its up to us to listen. God will not force his will upon us. Everyone has life lessons to learn and going through them is the best way to learn.
You can move out of state, but I think it would be best to ask your ex husband what he thinks of it.

Answer 2

I have witnessed many marriages that suffered with adultery come back, and be solid. I have also seen the opposite. I am guessing that you have prayed about this and God has told you to get a divorce, not a separation? I believe that as a believer, you are called to a higher standard, yes, God says adultery is grounds for a divorce. He also says that we as believers are to pray for our husbands, pray for our marriages, pray for everything, have you done this? I am sorry that you are going through this right now. God's plans, hmmm, boy I never understand them, sometimes though I get a little glimpse of why, after it all turns out the way it does. I wonder if your husband was a believer? God says we are not to be unequally yoked. I can't imagine a Godly man saying he didn't want anything to do with his child! He must really be struggling! He needs to find some wise Godly counsel, an older man whom he respects and will listen and give Godly advise. Being a single parent is not what God wants for our children, so I would strongly encourage you to hold off on the divorce as long as you can. Get your husband and you into counseling, and preferrably a Christian counselor, as well as seeking a counselor for yourself. Whatever God has in store for your family, you are the anchor right now, so stand strong! You are a valuable child of God yourself! Heiress to the throne! Do not fall victim to the ways of this world, hold your head up and fight for your family! Good luck, I will pray God's blessings on you, and for your husbands heart to be softened, and the health and well being of your child to never feel rejected!

Answer 3

I'm sorry you are so hurt. The truth is...you can't prepare you just have to except. Everything that happens to us, is not Gods doing. God say in his word that he will make a way for us to escape, You knew that there was something that didn't add up with this guy and yet you married him anyway. If half of us would be honest with ourselves we could say that those emotionally detached men we married, we already sensed that there was something that you can't figure out about them and yet at the same time WE JUST LOVE THAT MAN!!! God did LET you do anything. YOU made that choice. I want you to go back in your memory and think about what didn't settle right in your spirit about this man and you just looked over it, because you loved him and wants to get married. It wouldn't profit you nothing anyway, if you tried to hate God. You have to understand one thing when you are dealing with people and that is to count on not counting on them. Your husband think he's doing you a hurtful service right now, but God's words are.... You will reap what you sow. You should grant him his peace, but I would get child support and alimony if you can. One thing I know about hurt is ... IT DON"T HURT ALWAYS. Do me this one thing... Don't divorce your husband. If he want a divorce, then let him get it, but don't be the one that files for it. Continue to pray that God remove this stronghold that your husband have on him. Go on with your life and if it make you feel better, then move out of town, I will bet you, he WILL BE BACK!!!!!!

Answer 4

I had small children, and my husband had walked out. There was no time for some dreamy postulations about God this and that - I had to grow up fast and hit the ground running. I would not suggest leaving your support network just to teach your ex a lesson. Finally, reach for joy. It's your husband's loss. Unlike him, you have something extraordinary and useful to do, and you have a very short time to get rolling. If God were a person, you would not be wasting time asking questions that can wait. You would be asking him to help you NOW.

Answer 5

I pray for your conditions b changed as u want . Infact every moment of life we spend is not in our control. Our every will & wish to b fulfilled is a little bit difficult. U loved a man from the deepest core of your heart & now u face a grim situation it is so pity but can only pray to God to change his heart as all hearts r in the God's control. Lets pray for u . Sorry can't give u piece of advice what u realy require as i am still out of any such situation with the grace of ALLAH ALmighty.

Answer 6

I'd say that moving out of state, in and of itself isn't a bad thing... unless you're trying to run away. Running isn't the answer... your pain will only follow you.
I would seek out some counseling, it sounds like something that would benefit you highly. Just as you said, being pregnant and emotional, you may not be equipped to make the best decisions... just take your time, sleep on it, speak to others that are close to your situation (not your soon-to-be-ex) and use those resources to make a choice.
Best of luck to you sweetie... as some other said, doesn't sound like much of a man to me.

Answer 7

Move and let God deal with your husband.

Answer 8

It's not a bad thing, don't sound like much of a man anyway

Answer 9

I don't know, I'm not religiously inclined.