Another thing that really bothers me is how some men seem to get away with murder when it comes to hurting women. I am certainly not bitter. I am well aware that there are good men out here in the world despite the ones that put a good hurting on women. However, as I mentioned in my previous inquiry, being married only 8 months, I guess I should be glad that my husband and I came to a mutual agreement that we should get a divorce. He was cold and deceptive a lot of the times, and I eventually began disliking him for not caring about the hurt that he had caused me, which inevitably had me look for happiness elsewhere (church, family, books, telephone, whatever would take my mind off of my husband not loving me). I think one of the saddest mistakes that I made was relying on my husband to assure me that everything would be okay, that he was genuinely in love with me and no one else. Now, I am getting a divorce and God seems to be a little far from me. What could I pray for?
2007-03-25 16:10:28 · 13 answers · asked by PEACHFACE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God's position on Divorce is:
Only if adultery was committed by either or both partners.
Some churches recognize divorce in the event that there is abuse of some kind, either physical, mental, emotional, verbal, drugs, alcohol.
2007-03-25 16:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess you could thank the Lord that your marriage wasn't a waste you learned a lot of valueable things such as you shouldn't look to man to be sure everything is ok and you are loved. Thats what God wants to tell you thats probably why you feel distant from God because you concentrated on getting something from a man and from things of the world that can't be got from here. Man will dissappoint you and things will eventually get boring only God can give you perfect peace and love you forever. Pray that you will seek the Lord more and not try to get from man what only God can deliver thats how we get side tracked and mess up our lifes let God be your source it seems like he is working your life out where you can get close to him and be stronger in him so next time you will be less likely to get with a man too fast searching for something that may not be there. you will be less lonely if you draw close to him. And remember no matter how bad you mess up even doing things against the Lord in your life even if you don't have a biblical reason for divorce God will straighten out the things in your life you have messed up just ask him sit back and let him. And as you watch God clean up the messy life you made you won't need reassurance of love after seeing God love you. Godbless you and things will be ok just trust the Lord he has your best interests at heart because he does love you and always has.
2007-03-25 16:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off God does not look kindly on divorce. On that note I do believe he would be forgiving if you trying to leave someone that is mistreating you. Sometimes I think men marry someone because they think they will have more control over that person, well you know as well as I do that is the wrong reason to get married. I think one of the best prayers you can thjink of is just to ask forgiveness, pray for guidance, healing in your life, ask God to assure you, pray to God for a new beginning, God is never far he is always there right when you need him call out to him. Give god your problems he is so powerful and giving your problems up to him and his will can lift so many burdens off of you! Be thankful you saw your husbands ways now and you have the courage to get out.
God Bless and my prayers are with you.
2007-03-25 16:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait just a second. God is not and never is too far away. I mean you brought him, God, up. Don't turn away from him now. This is when you need him most. Pray that he speaks to you and leads you down whichever path he wants you to take. Pray for a man sent by God. Pray for peace and patience between relationships. Pray for your ex. God will be happy that you are not bitter for praying for an ex or an enemy. You mention that it was a mistake to lean on your husband. Lean on God. He can change any situation. I'm living proof.
2007-03-25 16:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Nique T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you! Divorce is really tough for many reasons. I think the really big part of it is forgiving yourself. Often we blame ourselves for not seeing things clearer, or for not having better judgement in the first place... but that's wasted energy, and negative self-thought. The truth is that people change... we all do... but if they change and grow away from us, there's nothing we can do. We can't change others, nor should we try. You did the best you could do... and I truly believe that God doesn't want us to be in unhappy relationships. He wants us to learn from our mistakes, and to learn to be happy within ourselves. Forgive your husband (ex-husband) totally... go through the divorce with grace and then move on to a better life. Look around you at what you have to be thankful for... family, friends, nature... find the beauty in the world. Then, when you're ready, look for a man who will respect you, care for you, and be interested in making you happy! It will happen! Good luck! :o)
2007-03-25 16:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by JP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pary for peace in the midst of the storm. Pray that God helps you to rely on his understanding and not your own. right now you might not understand everything you are enduring, but there is someone who does! God. Allow him to lead your path. Pray that his will be done and not his own. Often we have our own agenda while God has a totally different one. Pray that you be on one accord. I will pray for you everyday! Please get involved in as much as possible when it comes to God. This battle you are fighting is not yours it is the Lords. God doesn't want you to fight the battle. Be still and allow him too. Focus on your relationship with him and other relationships will fall in place. You aren't that far from God as you think. Accept him and flee from the devil!
2007-03-25 16:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry your marriage ended so soon.
It depends on what religion you practice (if any).
Do not forget that God loves you more than you could know!
He is near to you always!
I suggest to pray for strength and guidance.
2007-03-25 16:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by dtosta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe once questioned our lord stated to forgive your brothers transgressions 77 X 7 times, So if your is a question of being forgiven for anything it is said seek and ye shall find - ask and ye shall receive.
2007-03-25 16:18:37 · answer #8 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear of your troubles...
God is as close as you believe him to be...
Best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love..
As you know, lots of good men out there, trick is spotting
them and cutting them out of the herd...
Investigate more carefully next time and get a good Pre-Nup..
2007-03-25 16:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being that God hates divorces one can only pray for his guidance in this matter.
2007-03-25 16:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋