my mother in law completely cussed me out on the phone because she found out that i was gettin upset over her trying to force her opinion. she accused me of doing drugs when i was pregnant with the baby (we both passed drug tests in the hospital) and said i never let her see her kids. it's an eight hour trip and we go twice a month.
2007-03-25 16:08:01 · 13 answers · asked by linda m 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i mean she said we never let her see her grandkids, but she sees them twice a month
2007-03-25 16:08:33 · update #1
she gets the drug thing from me smoking pot when i was younger (about 10 years ago)but she's actually admitted to me that she smoked it a few times when she was very young
2007-03-25 17:12:27 · update #2
Some mothers just can't accept the apron strings must be cut..
Even the scriptures tell us . To cleave unto our spouse and none other... means to place the spouse first and foremost./ not the parents anymore. when we are children we need our parents to teach us how to be self sustaining, responsible people.. to respect them.. eventually we have families of our own. Mine mother in law was the same way.( I was never good enough ) . so i feel for you. If your spouse supports you in the decisions of the choices in visiting the grandparents that really helps. if not you'll have a second battle to handle..
Some people never accept what they get as enough. NO matter how much!.. I don't know why she felt to accuse you of drug taking .. I pray you aren't in anyway.. But, if you never have, and she accused you, i would move as far away as could, and Pray for her and make darn sure she never had a thing to do again with your family.. Anyone who is so malicious to cause that much trouble and hate, is dangerous to your relationship in your family.. No matter if parent to one of you. or not. We use to travel hours on end to visit our in laws. And all i got was sarcasm. It is not worth it.. Plus, later the children grew to ask why the grandparents were so mean to me.. they are smarter than think.. and they too should not have to even ask that ... It hurt them too.
good luck what ever you do.
2007-03-25 16:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by miladyfaire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mother in laws are notorious for being off their rocker a bit. Twice a month is plenty time with her grandchildren.
But I wonder, where would she get the impression that you were doing drugs? If you do drugs of some sort (besides the pregnancy), she may be taking one negative thing and applying it to you as a person and making assumptions.
My advice, just let her be who she is. It's been proven that no amount of negotiating and talking will appease mother in laws. It takes a really big person to brush that kind of stuff off. Don't let her anger you. It will only cause future problems.
2007-03-25 16:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 15:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by frantz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears she is giving you a hard time for some reason and it surely appears she do not like you. Perhaps she did not want son to get tied down so quickly and her outrage can be coming from that cause you took him away from her.
2007-03-25 16:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my ex mother in law was such a control freak...she would give our phone number to anyone that asked, would buy gifts and put our names on it, would dig into me when her son left the room and smile like nothing happened when he came back, would make racial slurs to me and eventually her grandchild and would think that I was overreacting...I put it down to that I married her baby and I was never good enough for him and the rest of the family...never felt welcomed into the family and we were married for almost 20 years
2007-03-25 16:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by hkitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with your husband stepping in and telling his mother to back off? Quit blaming the mother in law for your husband not having any balls.
2007-03-25 16:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't want to lose her baby, she might even feel like she doesn't matter, so she could be acting out because of that. Be nice and try to kill her with kindness.
2007-03-25 16:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a liar out of her, tell her unless she can show respect, she will eat her words.
2007-03-25 16:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you have taken her little boy away from her and now you are paying.............
just ignore her and tell your husband to stand up to her
dont worry about her - dont answer her calls, dont take the kids up there - until she stops b!tchin and naggin
2007-03-25 16:21:39 · answer #9 · answered by boonoora 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seem's shes going through the change of life !! or she's the one on druges !!
2007-03-25 16:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by James k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋