I am SO HAPPY !! I have learned the SECRET to WHY we were not good together. Its not my fault, its not her fault. We had a good long talk and we discovered that our likes and dislikes, our values and our ways were so different that it is amazing that we've been together as long as we have been without driving each other crazy. For example; I love ice cream, she Hates it. She loves sushi, I hate it. I love bike riding, libraries, and cats. She hates bikes, hates libraries, and prefers dogs. Eventually we grew apart because we did not share the same interests and desires and that was the problem. I did nothing wrong, she did nothing wrong. Now that we are going to be free, life should be better as we don't feel pressured to try to do the things that our partner enjoys. In addition, we can find someone who is more like ourselves. This is GOOD! We have prevented wasting another 7 years together. But we will still be good friends. We're just not similar enough to be husband and wife.
2007-03-25 16:07:46 · 17 answers · asked by honesty_counts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So?
2007-03-25 16:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What I don't understand is why you got married in the first place.
Nobody wants to marry a clone of themselves but neither do they want to marry an alien. It doesn't sound like you fall into either of these categories so if you really wanted to you could have made it work.
It sounds like you just don't love each other and have woken up to that fact.
In my mind, acceptable grounds for divorce but not for cheating. If you don't love each other, file for divorce and then go shopping for someone else. Cheating implies that you are keeping the old partner in reserve in case you cannot find anything better. Not a nice thing to do in my opinion.
2007-03-25 20:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be just an excuse. My husband and I have been happily married for 10 years. We have almost nothing in common. He is obsessed with sports, I find them dull. I like romantic comedies, he hates them. He loves sushi, it makes me gag. The list goes on. However, I find that we compliment each other. We try to focus on the things that we do have in common. We also have three beautiful children that we love to spend time with. However, if you feel that you have made the right choice - perfect. Everyone has to do what is best for them. Good luck.
2007-03-25 16:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, why were you drawn together in the first place if you have nothing in common. You obviously found enough in common to fall in love and get married.
They say opposites attract. It's true you need to have some things in common, but if you have too much in common you also get bored with each other.
I'm glad that you're happy, but I don't agree with you. I know a lot of people that get along better after they are divorced though.
2007-03-25 17:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by Karen H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is just a lot of rot!!!
you loved each other to start with
you just didn't do any thing to keep the marriage in good running order
you probably maintained your car more to keep it in good running order but expected the marriage to be good & you did nothing to help it
If you cheated you have low morals & your next marriage will fail because a leopard does not change its spots
you will always be someone not to be trusted
you will always be a liar
its got nothing to do with liking different things
liking different things can be good for a marriage because you have your space & thats great for a marriage to have a bit of time apart
2007-03-25 21:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know what your question is, but I am glad that you and you ex can be friends and move on with your live. You have a good story, but let me say that you told your reason for cheating, but cheating is never justified. You should get out of a marriage before you cheat. That is wrong.
2007-03-25 18:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are not reasons for breaking the marriage contract...those are EXCUSES. If you wanted to be able to phuck around you shouldn't have gotten married or at the very least gotten a divorce rather than make a contract null and voide. If you had so little in common why did you get married in the first place? You sound pretty pitiful to me.
2007-03-25 16:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-01 12:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by bebber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is not pleased that you broke a marriage because you wanted to leave. You knew your like and dislikes before you got married, that's a bunch of crap. You did do something wrong, you have broken your vows to God.
2007-03-29 15:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good on you!!!! If only other people would sit down and discuss whats going wrong in their marriages.
Good luck to you and your future ex- wife. Hope you both find what and who you are both looking for.
2007-03-25 16:14:46 · answer #10 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason is called giving up, just call a skunk and skunk, but if it is agreed on by the both of you than at least you do have something in common. Good luck with the next one > the next one .> the next one>>>>>>>>
2007-03-25 16:14:38 · answer #11 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋