I'm a heterosexual male. I'm just gonna be blunt. It's been a long time. Too long! This abstinence is really getting me down. I obviously don't have anyone in my life right now, no girlfriend, no "friend with benefits." I absolutely refuse to lower myself to paying for "services" or putting myself at risk of disease, so don't even think about suggesting that route. I'm definitely not a bar or party person so those won't work for me. I know there is always self-serve, but that gets old and just isn't the same. I know a bunch of you are probably laughing it up, but unfortunately for me, my problem is very real and my question is very real. I'd appreciate some genuine answers. How can I cope with all the pent up sexual tension and frustration?
2007-03-25 15:57:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Since some have wondered: I am 37 and I have a very healthy strong sex drive.
2007-03-25 16:22:28 · update #1
well... for right now... masturbating is sadly the only thing u can do.
In the meantime... try to find a girl... even if its someone that ur not crushing on. take her out a few times... then... just try to get some.
2007-03-25 16:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you fail to get sexual desire, by your partner, you get frustrated. I do not know your age or marital status. Women loose their sexual appetite at 40 + and male normally at 55+ ( some exceptions are there). Stop thinking about sex. Get yourself in other activities. If you get an opportunity, then enjoy sex to optimum. As such, you know all risks involved in heterosexuality and get service of professional. I feel you are really matured person. Sex is just a part of life.
2007-03-25 16:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by manjunath_empeetech 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of options dude...
Take the stuff they give to prisoners, soft-----
talk to a Dr. re:meds to reduce the problematic urge temporarily or
JUST USE YOUR IMAGINATION MORE CREATIVELY
intense fantasy during the self serve action
shake up self serve to new and creative places
cyber-sex
voyeurism
dirty movies
buy a blow up doll
talk dirty on phone 800-#'s
call upon an old girlfriend who might be in same predicament
get some new toys
the list is endless.....
Any action can get boring/ tedious (even with a partner)if you don't shake it up....change and experimentation are 'interesting'
? ever consider fuzzy animals? GROSS!!!! just kidding
you sound as if you need a helping hand...wanna date? Ha-Ha =)
2007-03-25 16:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by BS initials = BIG SEXXXIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am sorry to say that I don't deal with the same problem as you but what I can say is you should try the best you can to deal with your problem until you find that special someone.As for me I don't think your question is something to laugh at since you are really suffering with this problem. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-25 16:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by SUN$hiNE♥bbY. :D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill be monitoring your question i have the same thing going on,im an attractive guy i just live in a really small town in a remote place,sometimes i wish i lived in the city just because theres so many beautiful single woman in the world,if i was you and i lived in the city i would just start talking to woman,at the supermarket at the laundry mat,at the bus stop,theyre just people too,so dont be afraid,be friendly and honest and nice and youll meet someone.
2007-03-25 16:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by seth s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take a class, something physically demanding like kickboxing, karate, etc. Swimming helps as well.
2007-03-25 16:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by Tabatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choke that chicken!
2016-03-29 05:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is all you can do
2007-03-25 16:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by Teia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋