okay, my bf of 5 years and I have been through a lot of ups and downs. We were engaged and I wanted to get married forever, but we have had problems from trust to religion. So, he always put marriage off. Now, I am glad that we haven't rushed into anything, but he is ready to get married. We went to a friends wedding the other day and all he has talked about since then is marrying me and he had been the perfect bf. A while back, this would have thrilled me, so why the sudden switch in roles? Why is he so ready to get hitched and I am the one with second thoughts? I love him more than anything, but I have no idea what to do...When he realized I wasn't so into the idea anymore, it crushed him....I do want to be married, so am I just feeling the normal cold feet?
2007-03-25 15:51:07 · 8 answers · asked by KimberlyAnn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why fix what is not broken ?
2007-03-25 15:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself ....do you want to be married or do you want to be married to HIM? Some people just want to get married and it's not that they really want the person they are marrying. It sounds to me like you've been waiting all this time and you got used to the situation the way it is and so it really is just cold feet. Trust me I was in your same situation a few years ago...even as I walked down the aisle I was thinking "is this just cold feet...please just let this be cold feet!" It was definetly cold feet in my situation.. Not everyone is going to have that whirlwind kind of romance and proposal that gets you all excited. I didn't and it sounds like you haven't either. That doesn't mean he's not the right guy for you. You just have to be brutally honest with yourself. Good luck!
2007-03-25 16:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready to get married. It really is that simple.
If he asks you tomorrow, to run off to the courthouse and get married, if you are ready to get married, you'll do it. If not, you won't.
Marriage is something you either want real bad or something you're not sure of.
Do you need any more examples?
2007-03-25 16:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Your gut is telling you the right thing. If you really wanted to marry him you woulda jumped at it. You guys have been through a lot - this was your "break in" relationship. Its time to move on and use what you learned in your real, true love relationship. Its coming up, don't waste any more time with this one.
2007-03-25 15:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have to ask yourself..."Am I in love with him and cannot live without him?" If the answer is yes, then great. If the answer is no....then you should take a break and do some soul searching.
2007-03-25 15:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have sexual relationship? Both side have to be ready to commit, if not then don't get marry.
2007-03-25 16:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by Nea'A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't marry till your sure of your feelings it might be more than cold feet it might be warning bells going off
2007-03-25 15:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,cold feet kimberly. and marriage beats living in sin and burning in a lake of fire for all eternity. your in my prayers sweetheart! god bless you both!
2007-03-25 15:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋