I am currently getting a new job and have also been having lots of problems with wife. We are married for almost 2 years and 1 kid which is hers. We have not got along very well and I feel like i rushed into marriage and things have been hectic and crazy since the start. I am now getting a new job and i really think i should part ways with wife. The problem is I am somewhat nervous about how new employer might think about such things.
2007-03-25 15:47:19 · 17 answers · asked by russellc1979 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow a ton of responces in a short time. Well for those who want to get down on me for leaving my wife and stepson let me just say that there is love between all three parties involved. However there is tons of arguments as well. Wife abuses me and her son verbally and is consistantly angry no matter what the situation. So differnet than the happy little butterfly she can be and used to always be to me. And as far as the child involved well thats a very touchy issue to deal with. I mean will him living with two people who constantly fight jack his outlook up more than a step-dad who left because mom was an emotional headcase. I do love them both however the amount of stress and sadness in my life doenst do me or them any good. My wife is very pretty only she has a temper with short fuse she abuses marijuana with coworker of hers and she expects everything of me. Hey everyone sorry im rambling had to defend myself. I may be confused but i am not a bad guy.
2007-03-25 16:51:22 · update #1
your new employer can not hold such a thing against you. The only way your job can do anything to you over this is if your are absent alot due to court or if she causes problems while you are at work.
2007-03-25 15:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your personal life is not of any concern but your own meaning your boss doesn't need to know what is going on.
One thought though I'm thinking you have been stressed about finding work and just life in general in this case I would not be bringing your marriage into something that may just be personal. Marriage is a challenge and if you didn't have the balls for a challenge then well you shouldn't have gotten married.
I will tell you I have been married for almost 8yrs and well
it hasn't always been easy peasy. Marriage is full of sacrafices and you must understand this as well the first few years are the hardest. It also appears you married a single mom which is brave and courageous but now your planning on ripping her heart out and hurting this kid. If this has something to do with being short on cash flow and that you are always arguing about money then this new job is a start
to changing those aspects of your marriage. Marriage is to be for life and is the most important decision you make in your life and should not be taken lightly since the bond of marriage and holy matrimony is done under the eyes of God and the heavens and well of course family as well. If yo felt like you rushed into this marraige then maybe it is time to step back go through the wj\hole dating ritual again with your wife go out and do stuff just the two of you then incorporate the child in some fun family activities. Remember this kid has either lost his father to death or through divorce either way you are his new father figure do the right thing. Marriage is not always a bed of roses, but it does have the good times even if there are some bad. One other thing you have a wife and child to come home to a keep you company and spend time with. If you left do you think it would be fun to come home to an empty place and be paying out child support and alimony instead of helping raise a kid and have atleast a sex life?
You married this person you must have love for her and her kid since they are a package deal!
Some people may think your crazy to get involved with a women that has kids from a previous relationship. Personally I think your a stand-up guy. Who know's maybe she is your soul-mate and she was lost with someone for a short time before finding you?
Look into counselling because as a married guy I will tell you some ups and down's in your marriage are a lot cheaper then divorce!
God Bless and Good Luck
Congrats on the New Job!
2007-03-25 23:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your job should not have anything to do with your personal life. If you are not happy that is not good for you and anyone else that you may come in contact with. So you will be doing your new job a favor by changing your environment. If you are happy at home you will do better on your new job. I am not saying leave your wife but you need to try and make thing alright with her and see if you all can change and do better by each other.
2007-03-25 22:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of getting rid of wife,why don't you get some help with your problems.You don't marry some one for 2 years and then decide whoops,i made a mistake.Think of her child,how do you think you would feel if your mom married some one and 2 years later she divorce him?After you have gotten use to the man being there,than all of a sudden his gone.The child has bonded with you. Grow up a be a man,take care of your responsibility to your wife and both of your child.I know that you said that the child was not yours.But the child looks up to you as (her,or his}dad.
2007-03-25 22:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by Candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you have made a mistake and you are not getting along with your wife, then you do need to get a divorce or at the very least, go to some sort of counseling.
The least of my worries would be my new boss, your homelife is also very important and for you to do a proper job and be able to concentrate, you have to have a stable homelife.
2007-03-25 22:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well image can mean a lot now in these times. if you feel certain htat things are not going to work out with wife but don't want to ruin new job then you need to keep things a litel calm around the home front for a while then ease yourself into the transition of leaving wife
2007-03-25 22:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by Snickerlicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is your employer?The pope?Your personal bsuissness is none of his as long as it doesnt interfere with your job.You might try mnarriage counseling before chucking it all and ask HER to pick out the counselor, this way she will think she is stacking the deck in her favor.The counselor will be fair and hear both sides.What you BOTH have to do is be honest with yourselves and be willing to change.If not neither of you may ever be able to keep a relationship together married or not.
2007-03-25 22:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really none of your employers business unless it disrupts your work.if you love your wife, id say stick it out, when things calm down and you get a job, you may find you to are finally settling down to a good life, but decide before she gets pregnant, cause then there will be another kid involved, good luck to the to of you, have faith-and keep trying, there must be some love there somewhere?married 2 years, actually got married, give it a chance, good luck and god bless
2007-03-25 22:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've obviously already made up your mind to desert your wife. You even refer to your child as a "kid" and to make it worse, after 2 years, its "her kid". Do your wife and "her kid" a big favor...get the hell out of thier lives! No one needs a loser like you around.
2007-03-25 22:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by dwforce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude. problems will arise. questions 1 you should ask. is it worth it? question two, what brought you to together. and maybe marrige was to fast but it was a choise you made and well yeah you could go but you could end up with that wat iff felling as for the employer part some might look down on it others mightn not even care. it deppends on the employer.
2007-03-25 22:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by Apocalipce Industries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋