To make a long story short, I date my current bf for a year and six months and we ended it Sept. 2006. We're back together now and I really do love him. I know that we are meant to be. The problem is I live in GA and he lives in TN. My parents didn't like us together the first time and when I tell them we're back together- well, they won't like it. I'm also in college right now. I just don't know how to get my parents to realize that it's time to let go. My mom was tellin me that if I have bad grades that they're pulling me out of college- I'm 19! Sure, I live with them once or twice a month. I PAY FOR COLLEGE! I'm tired of being treated like a kid- I work, pay bills, go to school. How can I tell them to let go, let me move with my bf, and do what the hell I want. I'm sick of being told what to do!! PS- My parents are the "strict-Baptist-kind-of people". I just need help standing up to them. Suggestions (plz don't tell me to pack and leave- I don't wanna burn bridges)!!!!
2007-03-25 15:46:46 · 3 answers · asked by Lucy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have a lot of different issues to sort through - one at a time. You said you work and are paying for school - it gives the appearance that you are self-supporting. Your parents cannot pull you out of school. The next time they threaten that, let them know that you understand how important it is to have good grades, let them know you are working on it, and that you intend to do what it takes to continue putting yourself through school (end it right there). If they don't have anything to do with sending you through school, it sounds like you are maybe giving them too much leverage i.e. giving them too much information, opening yourself up to their input, etc. Tell them only what is absolutely necessary. That is the first way to get some freedom. There is nothing wrong with "strict-Baptist-kind-of people" - they can be very good solid people with a strong sense of family and strong values. Love is a wonderful thing, but if it is true, it will be there no matter what. I don't agree that you must go from your parents, to college, to living with your boyfriend. How about considering going from parents, to college, to living on your own to living with your husband? I lived on my own for several years before getting married and wouldn't trade the time I had for anything in the world. It made me more self-sufficient and stronger than I would ever have imagined. Plus, there were a lot of really fun memories from that time. I think every young woman needs to experience it. If you think that you must live with your boyfriend in order to keep that relationship, you need to look hard at the strength of that relationship. Good luck!
2007-03-25 16:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most parents want nothing but the best for their children, My mother in law loved me, so the need to find out what is wrong with BF from their point of view is important if it is something simple you could work it out. Continue with the education and proving yourself the responsible young lady to your parents then they should start respecting your decisions it's all part of growing and living, your family is nice to have for all the special/hard times in life. You're old enough to know men come and go.
2007-03-25 16:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most faculties don't permit in a single day reverse intercourse viewers so that you could most often be breaking a rule of his dorm. That apart it relatively does not subject if you are correct or improper due to the fact you are a minor and also you are living along with your dad and mom and also you have got to pay attention to them until you wish to get kicked out. If I had been you I could receive their judgment with appreciate so one can exhibit them that you're mature adequate and confidently allow you to pass subsequent time. Until then simply display that you're mature adequate to be allowed to head on a go back and forth like this. i.e. choose up after your self with out being requested, and do not computer virus your dad and mom while you do not have got to. Hopefully after they see that you are maturing they will supply you extra accountability. Honestly despite the fact that your boyfriend most often demands a while clear of his household and top tuition peers to get headquartered in university, so probably that is for the high-quality for now. Good good fortune :)
2016-09-05 16:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋