Should a single woman be obligated to tell her boyfreind if she wants to terminate a pregnancy?

Question

Should a single woman be obligated to tell her boyfreind if she wants to terminate a pregnancy?
And if you believe yes or no, please explain why. Under what circumstances should she be obligated to tell? What if the pregnancy would effect her health or that of the child?

What if the boyfreind has made it clear only weeks prior that he is not ready for a serioud commitment in his life and the doctor deemed it a high risk pregancy. This is a freind of mine and the guy is never there for her. He would want this preganancy at the risk to her and the baby possibly having congential defects. What then? Is it still wrong? Why put him through the guilt if they arent togehther anymore?

She was taking chemo drugs and lots of psychiatirc drugs and has severe health problems. Im on her side but wanted a point of view. He would have insisted on her having the baby and resented her for the rest of her life (even if she lived through the delivery) had somethign been wrong with the baby. Hes never been there for her. I agree with her decision but was curious what you all thought.

Answer 1

I think she should do what she feels is right. I am for abortion so when it comes down to it -it is the woman's decision and her right to have an abortion.
She does not have to tell anyone if she does not want to because it is her buisness.
There are some men who leave their wives/girlfriends without even telling them so what would be the difference in this.

Answer 2

I think it is only fair to tell him reguarless the situation you didnt just make the baby he did also and he atleast has the right to tell his feelings befor you make a decision you never know you might not want a child and he might and wants to raise it or you might want it and he doesnt you just wont get a clear or straight answer until you tell him...it wouldnt be fair to keep somthing like this from him it would tear you up inside and once u told him how do you think he would feel put youself in his shoes now if there is health risk talk to you doctor its the year 2007 and alot of medical research has been done so you can carry children its just a very touchy situation that should not be taken lightly and should be done the right way it take 2 to make a baby now it should take 2 to make or atleast talk about the decision of their baby-kristy 8 weeks prego

Answer 3

I think you're obligated to tell. Just because the guy doesn't carry the child doesn't mean he doesn't have equal responsibility in it. The father should be informed of the pregnancy and all the complications and all of that. Even be able to talk to the doctor himself. Guys often aren't as stupid and nonunderstanding as we girls sometimes think. It's not fair to make a decision for someone who is has an equal hand in the situation. when the decision is made to sleep with someone we know the consequences so should be mature enough to allow others to share in those decisions with us. having sex is a two person job and deciding on a pregnancy should also be two people

Answer 4

First of all, if you were pregnant and you knew that it was a health risk, why didn't you take the proper precautions and use protection? I believe that the father has a right to know because it is his baby too. Why would you not want him to know? Maybe he would want to raise the baby if you don't? I can't think of any reason that would make me not tell the baby's father. Well, in the instance of rape or something, it would be understandable. I believe if you get yourself pregnant though, that you should atleast give the baby life and let the baby be adopted by a family that wants it. You say that this is your boyfriend, don't you want him to trust you?

Answer 5

Any women should be obligated to tell their significant other whether they plan on terminating a pregnancy. Even if her health was at risk or the child's she should still be obligated to tell. It's the moral thing to do and you won't have to worry about your partner hating you for the rest of your life because you got an abortion without the other person's consent.

Answer 6

It all depends on the situation, If I was a guy I would want to know, but everyone is different, It is a hard decision to make on your own so it is always good to have support, and this way the person don't feel gulity in the end, Hey maybe it would help to change your mind about terminating the pregnancy, it could be something GRAND. Good luck

Answer 7

Yes, because what if the boyfriend wanted a kid to call his own and wanted to stay and help raise it. The only thing there should be is a contract saying the boyfriend has to help raise it and if they decline you could do whatever you want about the pregnancy and if they fail to do so when the child is born until the child is 18, then, the boyfriend should be fined up to 10 thousand depending on how long they didn't help.

Answer 8

One of the consequences of having sex with a person with whom your not married is that the woman has been given the right, by law, to make her own choices with regards to pregnancy issues. You are not obligated by any means to tell him legally, but morally, well that's a different story.

Your conscience may put you thru hell, but you're not obligated. I would certainly hope though that you don't intend to continue your relationship with this boyfriend beyond the time you choose to terminate his child's chance at living, beyond the time you choose to take away his chance to raise a child on his own that he may very well want to raise. And if you plan on terminating his child, keeping it a secret, and staying with him, well that's just downright devious and you have don't deserve him, whether it's medically necessary or not. You don't have faith in him to understand your predicament? Well, then you shouldn't have faith in the relationship.

But again, no you're not legally obligated to tell him anything in the United States.

Answer 9

I don't know about legally, but I think that the boyfriend has the right to know. if the pregnancy is going to be harmful to the mother or the child, the father of the baby could help make decisions regarding the pregnancy. i think that the father should be told under all circumstances. even if the pregnancy is the result of a one night stand, the father should know that he has created a child.

Answer 10

A woman has control over her own body. Married or single. But especially when she is single. If the boyfriend has undertaken a committment to stay with her after the child is born, to pay half of the costs of housing, feeding, clothing and educating this chlld, then one could make a case for him having a vested interest in the outcome of the pregnancy. But if he's just accidentally donated some sperm, he has nothing to do with it.
Even in a committed relationship or in a marriage, if a pregnancy could have serious medical repercussions for the woman, it should be her decision whether or not to terminate .