And if you believe yes or no, please explain why. Under what circumstances should she be obligated to tell? What if the pregnancy would effect her health or that of the child?
2007-03-25 15:38:31 · 11 answers · asked by chcknbizkit 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
What if the boyfreind has made it clear only weeks prior that he is not ready for a serioud commitment in his life and the doctor deemed it a high risk pregancy. This is a freind of mine and the guy is never there for her. He would want this preganancy at the risk to her and the baby possibly having congential defects. What then? Is it still wrong? Why put him through the guilt if they arent togehther anymore?
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She was taking chemo drugs and lots of psychiatirc drugs and has severe health problems. Im on her side but wanted a point of view. He would have insisted on her having the baby and resented her for the rest of her life (even if she lived through the delivery) had somethign been wrong with the baby. Hes never been there for her. I agree with her decision but was curious what you all thought.
2007-03-25 16:07:57 · update #1
Women don't need a man to tell them what to do with their own bodies we don't tell them what to yet they're always makin laws for us. i say it should be the womens choice to tell or not to tell. If you got a good man that will try to be understanding then maybe ou might want to tell him whats goin on but if you got a dead beat or a asshole who can't dig his head out. i wouldnt tell him but that's just me
2007-03-25 15:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by Pumpkin Pie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
While I don't think she's obligated to tell him, I feel it's very close to that. It would be the polite and appropriate thing to do. She shared her body with him and together they created a life (unintentionally I assume). It is true that at the end of the day it's her body not his, but it would be incredibly selfish (as well as closed-minded) of any woman, whose partner isnt problematic, to see a pregnancy (or resulting child) as hers alone. The woman might somehow deserve a slightly greater say in what happens, but it would be quite unfair to completely leave the man out of it, even if he might never find out what could have been.
If the pregnancy would affect her health, then there should be no problem with her telling him as he should not be likely to object. If a man would object to his partner terminating a pregnancy due to potential health risks, then...
2007-03-25 23:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by phil_sopher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is a health issue or a product of rape, I believe, those are the only reasons for terminating a pregnancy. Even though you are carrying the baby he has a right to know because the baby was made by both of you, you did not get yourself pregnant. So I think it is selfish to keep it from him. You are always obligated to tell because it took the two of you to decide to have sex and it should take the two of you to decide how to handle the consequences but ultimately it is up to you and don't do anything because you are worried of what people think. Plus, if you terminate, later when you realize what could have been you will never forgive yourself.....it's hard and over time it will eat at for the rest of your life.
2007-03-25 22:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by Army_Wife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's the woman carrying the baby so she has the right to decide. I do think the father should have some say in the matter as well, since he helped create the child. But, if the pregnancy is effecting her health then she should definitely feel obligated to tell her boyfriend she wants to terminate the pregnancy. I'm not a big fan of abortion. I don't believe it should be used as a form of birth control for some hoe who got knocked up.. but in other circumstances, for example if the mothers life was in danger or if someone was raped.. those are really the only justifications I can make for abortion.
2007-03-25 22:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It depends on the relationship.
If it's serious or there's a chance it could become serious she should probably tell him. I don't think it's the sort of thing you'd want to have come out years down the road.
If it's just a casual relationship you don't see going anywhere long term then maybe not.
Personally, if I were the guy, I'd probably want to know. Then again, there have been guys I've dated that I've thought probably wouldn't be able to cope if that did happen.
It's a hard case to make to be honest until you're in the situation.
2007-03-25 22:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by Rayvin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Am I the only person out here that feels that if you don't want to be in a situation then USE BIRTH CONTROL!!! If you are adult enough to have sex then you are adult enouth to take precautions to prevent pregnancy. However, I think she should let him know out of respect. Even if they don't agree she can make her own decision. If the tables were turned she would probably want to know. If they were serious enough to have a relationship like this they should be able to talk to each other.
2007-03-25 23:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by TNBelle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that morally yes she is obligated to tell him. Unless she made that baby by herself he should have some input into whether or not he agrees with terminating the pregnancy. Ultimately its her decision though
2007-03-25 22:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by Forgotten Ones 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't think so because it is her body to do with what she pleases. I'm not sure if he knows she's pregnant, but if so then she might need to tell him her decision to prevent confusion, but if he doesn't know then she could just have the procedure w/o his knowledge. It really depends on the situation, because if they were long term and had future plans to stay together then he might need to know, that would be a little important. Of course if her health were involved then she should carry on with the procedure, you've got to weigh the benefits.
2007-03-25 22:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by Heatha 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well first of all if shes sleeping with the guy she isnt single, unless shes a slut, she is not obligated, but morally if there is even 1% of a chance she would keep it she should talk to him and see how he feels about it, it might change her mind....
2007-03-25 22:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by bella 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your body your choice. Also if you tell he may go legal werd on you. Good luck and peace be with you.
2007-03-25 22:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋