I fell very hard for Terry, she wanted to have an affair with me but I turned her down for a few reasons. First I'm married and second, we worked together. She no longer works for my company. I have talked to her a few times since. We were very attracted to eachother, and good friends at work. Today we passed in heavy traffic. She waved to me as I rode by and I waved back. I can not think of anything but her day in and day out. She had divorced her husband and is living with some poor sickly guy. I am still married, but am no longer in love with my wife who has cheated several times after Terry's advances. Being that my wife is a tramp,I have no fear of loosing her when she catches me pursuing Terry.I don't want to ruin Terry's current relationship if she is content. She wasn't last time we talked and feels stuck where she is. She is like that 1 person in this world to me. Should I let her know how I feel and leave it at that. I don't want to mess this up or make her feel intimidated.
2007-03-25 15:36:23 · 12 answers · asked by Freddy123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off before pursuing anyone you should get a divorce from your wife....because if you cheat on her you're doing the exact trampy thing she did to you which doesn't make you any better than her. So i would take care of that first so it's off your conscious and then you can do whatever you want. If you truly care for this woman than I see no harm in telling her....after you file for a divorce.....and then seeing how things are from there. But don't push the issue if she doesn't want to leave her man. That's not a place you want to be in cause it always turns out bad. So just be patient and take care of a few things and then see where you both are after that and pursue things from there. Good luck
2007-03-25 15:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Freddy why are you calling your wife a whore after this has happened with you and Terry? Let me tell you something. It's as easy as this. Any woman that engages a fling, affair whatever you want to call it with a married man is a dishonest person. She's cheating on the man she is with now. I some how doubt you will be the last she stops at. You both probably found a common ground at work with each other and are building up a bond for the same common reason. You aren't happy in your current relationships. This is the perfect formula for a future disaster. I some how doubt just with the small bit of information you shared with us that you would work out with her either.
2007-03-25 22:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is something you need to fix before you pursue anyone. By that I mean you need to leave your wife because you don't love her no more not because you see another bait to fish with. Never see another woman while married. You will be sending your self to hell and the person you are with if they know that you have a wife. So anytime you want another relationship get out of one before starting another. No matter how that person have treated you, they will have to answer for their sin and you yours. I hope you believe in the Holy Bible then you will not want to be with another while married to someone else.
2007-03-25 22:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to divorce your wife and be with this "Terry" person if you feel you can be happy with her. Although rather cliché, life is short and you should make the most of it. Be happy.
2007-03-25 22:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Liquid Snake 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get divorced. Cheating is always wrong,you made vows for Goddsakes! Dosn't that matter to you? Even if she broke them, dont stoop to her level. Affairs are messy and i wouldnt go there if i were you
2007-03-25 22:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by lovebug512 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that unhappy in your marriage then file for a divorce. Why cheat? You can be free to do whatever you want. Think about what you really want.
2007-03-25 22:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by uuummk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH Please tell her!
She probably feels the same way as you.
If she is really a nice person she won't want to have any type of affair with you. She would want marriage at the proper time. So, time will tell.
2007-03-25 22:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by pitch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first divorce your wife then pursue whoever you want that is not a married...Do the right thing....
2007-03-25 22:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump your wife first.
2007-03-25 22:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by shadouse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want to rape this Terry girl.
Leave the innocent woman alone before you mess up her life, and your wife probably cheated on you because you probably cheated on her first (that's how it usually works), so I think you are not telling us something. YOU HAVE CHEATED BEFORE YOU CHAUVINISTIC MALE PIG.
2007-03-25 22:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋