I have a friend named Vanna who can be a total brat to me. I would use another word but I'm not. She uses me (ex: can you go get me this or that..etc.) and then treats me as a friend..then is a total backstabber. She plans all the fun things me and my friends do when I have class or I have to work. When she goes home, she calls everyone else to go out and leaves me out. One time I sat in the back of her car, which have screwed up tinting, and blamed me the next day for it being screwed up in the spot I sat near. I never messed with it! Ever! I'm tired of her being a brat to me. I've never been rude to her or done anything to her-nothing! I'm getting sick and tired of her being so mean. She treats me like a child! Another example is when we went out to eat she hid one of my friend's purse. My friend was freaking out- so I told her where it was and who had it- Vanna ripped my head off for telling her! Can someone please help me with this "mean girl" situation??
2007-03-25 15:29:52 · 11 answers · asked by Lucy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I want to be an adult about this- no cat fights or fighting fire with fire. I just wanna know WHAT DO I TELL HER AND HOW!
2007-03-25 15:36:11 · update #1
Oh- It's hard for me to "cut off ties" because all my friends hang out with her.
2007-03-25 15:37:57 · update #2
umm well you really need to confront her about this because if you just sit back and let her be this way you will never be able to in the future just tell her how you feel and how much this hurts you, and if she doesn't wanna hear it then honey she ain't worth you time you need to ask yourself if she's really all that important to you and why and if you cant come up with an answer than dump her *** to the curb. trust me you have wayy better friends than her so why don't you start talking to them more and have a better relationship with them and forget about her.
2007-03-25 15:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by Tiggs09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know what? This girl is obviously one of the bratty, witchy ones. I wouldn't even call her a friend.
I suggest you telling your other friends. Talk to one of them you trust & know won't tell her. It may just so happen that the other girls are dealing with the same thing with Vanna.
They always say, keep your enemies close, but your friends closer. This seems to be one of those sticky situations where you just need to ignore her. If that doesn't work out too well, try the nice measure on her. Buy her movie ticket if you go to a movie. Buy her favorite ice cream at the snack bar. Consider complimenting her. Maybe make the plans for all your friends every once in a while. Don't be afraid to take charge of the situation. Be a leader, not a follower.
She may just be insecure in the first place. Make her feel welcomed & comfortable.
Or maybe you should really ask yourself if they're really your friends?
Another alternative might be to hang out with other people. Get away from your standard clique & experience other things. They may be a little jealous at first, but then it will all fall into place.
2007-03-25 15:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by Carson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got the only answer-- stay away from her! You are unfortunately allowing her to abuse you this way-- don't let her and don't give her any more opportunities to do so. She knows that she has you wrapped around her finger and unfortunately you are giving in. I have had friends like that in the past and I cut off ties with them because people who treat you this way are not worth your time.
I would make the adjustment slowly-- FIRST, tell her you do not like what she does, and it is not fair. Second, let her know that if she behaves towards you like this one more time, you will no longer want to hang out with her or be her friend. And then lastly, cut off the friendship because she is being manipulative and emotionally abusive. The rest of your friends seem to already be under her spell, and set the good example by breaking it.
2007-03-25 15:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Orchideye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The solution for your conflict is pretty simple.
Don't stay friends with her.
Ask yourself. Why stay friends with a girl that treats you like crap and makes your life hell?
Start ignoring her. If you can't do that, then stand up to her.
Everytime she does something like leaving you out, then confront her about it. <-- not in an angry way, but in a strong way.
Trust me. If you dont get out of this right now, then shes going to make your life miserable.
Make real friends. Dont stick with the fake ones.
2007-03-25 15:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by whatever21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this person is simply not a friend. I hope you would completely stop wasting your time on her and find healthier relationships. It's difficult to side with this Vanna or sympathise with her or even condone her actions.
I think staying with her would be disrespecting yourself.
I hope you don't wait for critical mass. She'd continue to hurt you as she has no consideration for you.
Strive to be happy.
Follow your bliss.
best!
2007-03-25 15:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by ficklefeather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you consider her your friend?
People get "stabbed in the back" because they allow it. Walk away and find some real friends.
2007-03-25 16:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she treats you horribly don't talk or hang out with her anymore.
2007-03-25 15:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by nickig_crazy_gurl6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what u mean compleatly exept if i walk away from that person im walking away from all my other friends exept 4 jen
2007-03-25 16:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand up for yourself and be a man she is bad news
2007-03-25 15:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by sir_inferno 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her and if she doesn't do anything fight her....
2007-03-25 15:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely Cinnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋