do you apologize to your wife/husband after you realized that you hurt their feelings? what are the things you do to let them know that you're really sorry?
2007-03-25 15:11:46 · 19 answers · asked by Lola 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I realize that I have done something that has hurt my wife's feelings I apologize for the fact that I hurt her and then I ask her to talk with me and to explain how she felt and what I did or did not do that made things worse. I apologize again and try to improve the area of myself that caused the problem. I don't respond by showering her with gifts, flowers, that kind of thing. I don't want her to ever associate those kinds of efforts on my part to be down out of guilt or the feeling that I was in her doghouse. When I do something special for her I want her to know that it was because I was thinking of her and not trying simply to get back on her good side...
2007-03-25 17:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course everyone can screw up once in awhile and is important tell your spouse that you are sorry for you has said on done. Even if it was out of frustration you should never let your emotions hurt the ones you love. I think just being honest to your spouse and explaining to them why you may have acted like you did is the best medicine. Then with this out in the open there is a lesser chance of the behavior occuring again. I think alot of relationships end because the people involved are not truthful with there feelings it is important to express your feelings and communicte all the time. I do belieb\ve most people will agree with me when I say that one of the causes of divorce and relationships split ups occur because people stop communicating. I would ask my wife if she would like a massgae or if there was anything I could do for her sometimes I would by her flowers or a stuffed animal because I know she loves them. I think whatever a person does to say they are sorry should come from the heart that is the only way you know that you yourself are trying to express
your feelings. When you apologize just for the act of apologizing are you really saying sorry or are you just trying to forget the actions that caused this.
God Bless and Best Wishes.
2007-03-25 22:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn it around--if your spouse has hurt your feelings, would you appreciate an apology? Maybe the spouse doesn't feel as though it was something that they need to apologize for, but clearly you do--what could they do to show YOU that they are really sorry? Would a sincere apology followed by acknowledging how you felt be enough to tell you that they meant it? Try it and see.
2007-03-25 22:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely !! Apologizing is the right thing to do and only a few people have the balls to swallow their pride and actually do it. I apologize when ever I see I may have hurt his feelings. I even apologize before I do or say something that might hurt him but something I must say and get off my chest.
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2007-03-25 22:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love them then ask them for 5 min. of there time to set down and talk tell them how sorry you are and how much you love them and life is to short to fight with your soul mate if you have said whatever it was before then a apology is only good so many times
2007-03-25 22:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. That's part of a relationship especially a married one. I usually tell them in person and then the next morning give him a card or write an e-mail to him and apologize again just so he knows. Plus playing a game together or cooking together helps us get our mind off of it and helps us bond again by doing something as a team.
2007-03-25 22:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i sure do apologize when i realize i hurt him and this should be done no matter who is doing the hurting. You need to ask them to forgive you for it as wlel. I like to hold his hand alot and talk to him when i am really sorry.
2007-03-25 22:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We both apologize if we've hurt one another's feelings. Usually he'll look eye to eye and say it. He will usually touch my hair or stroke my face very tenderly. I do the same. It's a big deal. My first husband rarely apologized and definitely didn't seem gentle or sincere about it.
2007-03-25 22:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an expert on this question, since it's probably everyday I'm doing something wrong. I say "I'm sorry" and give her an extra long hug and kiss and a pat on the bottom for good measure. I pick up around the house and try to be extra sensitive to her needs.
2007-03-25 22:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by bigdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we both apologize when we are wrong to let each other know we are really sorry we talk about it and fix whatever happened. we try to find a real solution to the problem before we end the convo and we try as hard as possible to adhere to our solution
2007-03-26 00:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋