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We got engaged a year ago, then things gt weird. I didn't see him for five months except when sleeping because he was working on remodeling a male friend's kitchen, then he bought a house two houses down as a real estate investment and I hardly ever spent quality time with him because he was renovating that house before renters moved in. Then, the renters moved in and are his friends - however, they are party animals and drink all the time. Now, he is there drinking from morning to night. He won't do anything with me and one night he had a boy's night out, I got mad because he hasn't spent time with me but can go party with the boys and I went out myself. He said they were gonna be somehwhere else because he didn't want me there, so I didn't know he was gonna end up being where I went. I said hi, he ignored me, so I danced with another guy. We then broke up and he said I can leave whenever I am ready. What I don't get, HE IS NEVER HERE and always at the party house next door?Why?

2007-03-25 15:10:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

15 answers

he isn't ready to settle down yet. He still wants to party. As for him telling you to leave when you are ready.. well just be thankful that he didn't kick you out on your butt. Maybe he is never there because he knows you are there and doesn't want to be around you right now. My advice, move out as soon as possible and move on.

2007-03-25 15:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by jenny 3 · 1 0

Shacking up is NOT a committment,it is an audition for the part of wife which no one ever gets.If you had just sat back and watched his behavior for a yr before having sex with him or shacking with him, you would have saved yourself a lot of grief.The truth is he sees you as a disposable sex toy for his own personal use and nothing more.He does NOT respect you,he only thinks of himself and probably wants you to move out so he can try out some other honeys thats been lining up to sleep with him.Get some dignity and self respect, get a job support yourself and get to know about a guy before you even date him then wait until you know what he is before marrying him, and then marry him BEFORE you go to bed with him.I hope you arent pregnant by this jerk, that would really be sad.

2007-03-25 15:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

The best thing to do is get your own place and forget him. He is not ready for a settled down type of relationship. He has to grow up into a man before he is ready for that. Boys still want to play. Your better off without that.

2007-03-25 15:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

you sound like a prisoner and slave, not a woman pal or fiancée...... it is all too controlling, all you like is a room to hire, not an place of living, so some distance as a vehicle is in contact, that's some thing you may ought to bypass on your mum and dad for, some rentals are affordable, no funds down and $149/mo...... so some distance as college, there could be grant funds attainable to assist besides........ ordinary you're in a ill, controlling, risky, and likely risky undertaking, it particularly is particularly helpful to call an abused woman's safeguard for suggestion too... or you additionally can bypass to a community church, church homes specifically situations help with stuff like this too.......final analysis, help is on the market, you ought to ask. as quickly as you hire the room, p.c.. your house, write him a notice and take a taxi on your new place of living, if he unearths you and makes a scene call the law enforcement officers. if he buys this domicile, your existence is over, get out previously this happens, desire you get a great number of innovations for this one

2016-10-19 22:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

I dont know the reason why his behavior is like this! I am so sorry your in this situation. Just move out when you are ready. You need a man that treats you better. Good luck!

2007-03-25 16:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by PinkHighHeels 4 · 0 0

dont question why just end it. because if you take it hell keep walking all over you. hes up to shady buisiness and personally your better off not knowing. knowledge brings pain. leave and dont look back unless he grows up.neither of you are ready for marriage. people never take enough time to actually know who their with. its all fun at first till it starts to get real then they bail thats when you know.

2007-03-25 19:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by solas lethe 3 · 0 0

Maybe he is interested in a girl at the party house?

2007-03-25 15:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by mylifmybiz 1 · 0 0

He's telling you QUITE CLEARLY he doesn't want you in his life anymore. He's just expecting you to "get it" and move out.

If you had more respect for yourself, you would have moved out long ago.

Get on with your life- without him.
Good luck...

2007-03-29 04:35:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This guy is a loser. Move out and see how much he misses you cause you won't be there! Then he'll know what he lost.

2007-03-25 15:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by The only good blu is a dead blu! 4 · 0 0

Because you broke up. What is your question? It sounds like either (a) he is an a**hole, no offense, or (b) you are not the one for him. Possibly both. Please move on, other men exist. Not to be rude, I'm serious.

2007-03-25 15:14:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jacques 4 · 1 0

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