Married 8 years. Hubby eats everything in sight then lies about it. One minute he's complaining about weighing over 300lbs and saying if I buy fruits and veggies he'll lose weight. Then the next minute he's eating a whole box of girl scout cookies and drinking two cans of soda to wash em down! I have been providing wholesome, heart healthy foods including fruits and veggies for a long time but he won't eat them....they go bad and I have to throw them out! He stops at the store and gets a big muffin and soda for breakfast, orders out for lunch at work and then comes home and eats supper. Within an hour he's after a huge dish of ice cream and anything else he can get his hands on. I am at my witts end. And tonight we just had a huge fight about it. He is pre-diabetic if not full diabetic---he won't tell me what doc has to say and I couldnt go to his last physical. I'm worried about his health. Any other wives out there with the same issue?
$43 in GirlScout cookies gone in a week.HELP!
2007-03-25 14:54:25 · 7 answers · asked by j05gemini 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All I can say is keep ALL the junk food out of the house. If he stops off and buys that crap on his own, it is not your fault, because you can only do so much.
Continue to give him hell for eating like that every time you see it though. And in the meantime, make sure that he has a REALLY GOOD life insurance policy, because it looks like you are going to be left alone to raise the kids real early.
In the meantime, try going on a diet and exercise program of your own. Make only very, very healthy meals and serve him small portions. Make him exercise with you, or exercise right in front of him when he refuses. Pretty soon he is going to be questioning just why you are so intent to get into shape. Throw a bit of flirting with other (in shape) men in front of his nose while you two are out together. He just might decide that the only way he'll be able to keep you is to get in shape himself. You don't need to actually contemplate having an affair--just make him think you are.
2007-03-25 15:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going to do what he is going to do. You aren't his mommy. Maybe if you stop treating him like a child, he will take some responsibility for his own actions. If not, he is an adult, it is his life. Sorry, its not your job. Eat healthy yourself and set a good example.
2007-03-25 15:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by kk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok instead of getting mad and telling him what he should do, tell him how you FEEL. I've read this in reltionship improvement books, this works best of all. Say "honey I FEEL worried about your eating habits, i want you around to see our grandkids, be old with BLAH BLAH .."whatever u want to say. Just talk from how you feel and ask him how he feels. Its all very touchyfeeley but it works!
2007-03-25 15:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by lovebug512 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG! wow. he sounds like something drastic has to happen to him for him to change. my husband was like that. he didn't eat sweets though. his weakness was a 20lb steak. and carbs. he has a soft spot for something. find it. use it. mine is our new baby. doesn't he want to live to play with his beautiful little boy when he's ten? he is now on a strict diet that he is in control of. it's takes time. find it.
2007-03-25 15:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fiber as much as you can find and straight protein powder
Don't load the fridge aND DON'T BUY COOKIES OR CHIPS
2007-03-25 15:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by bubbba2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you are worried about his health and hope that is enuf the more you tell him what to do them more he will do the opposite
2007-03-25 15:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife does the same thing about my cocaine habit. Nag, nag, nag.
2007-03-25 15:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋