January, I met a man in one of my classes. In the beginning, it seemed that we were going to be good friends (nothing more then that).
However, as time progresses ... he's been acting a little wierd. Like he's been really paranoid :O Also, his general character is very instense, head-strong and a bit aggrasive.
If I talk to any of my other friends (who are males), he'll get angry.
Also, my friend and I planned a day together because she and I are always too busy to hang-out. The same day, he called and asked me to break my plans with my friend to go out with him instead. One weekend, when I was really busy, he told his friends that I didn't want to go out with him so I ingnored his calls. Ummm, last time I checked he said that we were friends and I agreed ... at least thats what I thought. He's been very persistant lately,
I don't know, I feel I'm being pushed into a relationship here ... something that I didn't agree to. Should I go out with him? Or Remain Friends or ....
2007-03-25 14:38:35 · 10 answers · asked by rosie768 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He seems like a very sweet and passionate man, but he a little rough around the edges -- that's what scares me the most.
Plus, I been in a few relationships that I feel were emotional draining. This guy can be very emotionally chaotic when he can't get his way on. Yes, it sounds immature, but thats just the way he presents himself. Oh yeah, he's in his late 20s by the way and I'm in my early 20s.
2007-03-25 14:39:56 · update #1
He seems really emotionally distressed :-( I feel really terrible because I know he has plenty of stress. He and I have class together too so I can't stop talking to him. I just think it will be better if we stay friends, but like I said he's been acting really wierd ... everytime I mension the word "friends" He gets annoyed, so I don't know what else to say.
2007-03-25 14:48:03 · update #2
OK it sounds like he's trying to control you. talk to him and ask him what he wants....then go form there make sure he doesn't take the conversation the way he wants it, take it the way you want it. For this time you have to be controlling, just to find out whats going on. If he wants the "only friends" relationship to change tell him if you do or don't. Give him a reason so he won't take it the wrong way. You want him to still be a friend, just not one who controls you.
2007-03-25 14:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by beonlyme11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should run and never look back. Hes already showing you signs, leave before its too late. If you continue to talk to him the real person will come out eventually, he won't be able to hide his true self for to long. If you don't leave him just watch him very closely.
2007-03-25 14:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by lisa w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a stalker type...could become abusive physically or mentally or both...you are just seeing what he wants you to see of his personality...the anger is his true self peeking thru...try to avoid him...get an answering machine or caller ID to screen calls or change your phone number...Let someone know about this...if it gets really bad, report it to the police...
2007-03-25 14:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know him, and I do not see how he acts, but I just think he really admires you or something. Everyone deserves a chance, and if you think there is any chance that it could work ; go for it. Most likely he will loosen up if you DO date.
2007-03-25 14:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Doll. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea guh he likes you and heads up, if i catch you goin out wit an ugly man i'ma get you, naw juzt kiddin. But don't go wit ugly ppl and ppl dat scares you. If you go wit him or liv wit him he could do anything, izn't that scary.
2007-03-25 14:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that he has been a little wird lately and if it is for any specific reason .just try and not spend as much time with him but dont completely shut him off.
2007-03-25 14:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by ruby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him straight up yall are nothing but friends.
and that yall dont go out and that he should stop acting like yall do. he sounds really pushy dont go out with someone you dont like
2007-03-25 14:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by Pookie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should be just be upfront with him. if he has a hard time with it just walk away from him. its better to be upfront
2007-03-25 14:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by gurlfromjersey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it!!! i mean firends make the best boyfriends since they know you!!
2007-03-25 14:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by charlies angel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-25 14:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋