My boyfriends mom died. It was unexpected. He doesnt want me to go to the funeral that is out of town. I have no problem getting there and I want to be there for him. He says it would be too much trouble for me to go. We have been together for a year and have no problems. All is great. I dont understand why he isnt wanting me to be around.
2007-03-25 14:31:04 · 13 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We live together and are both adults. I have seem him cry and we share everything. Hisfamily knows about me but I have not met all of the cousins and friends attending the funeral.
2007-03-25 14:44:22 · update #1
tell him you want to support him in any way you can. if he still says he doesn't want you there then you hafta respect that. some things some people just need to do on their own. all you can do is let him know you are there if he needs you.
if he really doesn't want you to go, you could write a card or letter and put it in his bag so it's there when he is away.
2007-03-25 14:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by kittycat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little fishy to me... Maybe something to hide? if he doesnt want you to go than either respect his wishes and not go. Or if you are of age.. and feel you need to go, go on your own and just see whats lerking around the corner. BE warned tho.. if things arent kosher, can you deal with that?
2007-03-25 14:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by shakannaglory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of guys put the wall up. If you start crying, he might cry. And to him, that is not what he wants to do. Also if you haven't really been around his mother to often he might feel that your relationship is not strong enough and I feel bad saying strong enough, but maybe that is how he feels.
2007-03-25 14:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why he doesn't want you to go and support him. Maybe he doesn't want you to see him upset at the funeral. But I think respecting his choice will be better for your relationship.
2007-03-25 14:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he told his fam about you? Girl there is something secretive going on here. My ex bf's dad died and we had only been together about 5 months and he begged me to go for support!
2007-03-25 14:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys do not like showing there girlfriends how thay feel its not motcho im shore hes going through a really tuff situation and doesnt want you to see him brake down i went through it when my husbands dad died 21 years ago when i was dating him and you no what i showed up and we cried together he needs you and doesnt want to show it........good luck and im sorry
2007-03-25 15:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by Angela g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just needs to be alone right now after all it is his mom he is probably going to break down and doesn't want you there to see him at his weakest I wouldn't push him on it just let him know you are there for him and leave it like that if you push you could push him away
2007-03-25 14:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would depend on how much of his family you know if you don't know any of his family or not much he might feel kinda wierd about it & maybe the death is harder on him than he has shown 2 you as of yet so don't worry about it 2 much time wil fix & tell all ok!
2007-03-25 14:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by Big Mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably an emotional issue. He may be afraid you will see him as weak if he breaks down and cries.
2007-03-25 14:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by starfire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't want to have to worry about you. It will be much easier for him if you aren't their. Did you know his mother? If not, let him go and don't bug him about it.
2007-03-25 14:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by NellaNasus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋