I feel like I'm losing my best friend, we've been reallly close for about a year, even when she went up to college about an hour away in september of 06, she came back home for second semester and we have the best times together. But recently she drives up to her old college EVERY weekend, and the people that hurt her/she didn't really get along with when she attended college are like her new best friends. She always tells me I'm her best friend, but actions speak louder then words and I feel like I've lost my best friend. Ive tried to talk to her about it many times, sometimes she acts like she understands, and other times she just gets mad and leaves. each time i talk to her i talk calmly, and tell her how i feel nicely and i also make it clear i understand she misses her college friends.
i don't know what I'd do without her as a best friend. Should I put up with it even though it kills me that shes never here to hang out w/ on weekends? Or just get over it?
2007-03-25 14:16:55 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok look, i feel the same way with my best friend. im going through the same thing your going through. My best friend left me to go to another school in like 7th grade, and i thought we would stop being friends after that. I wasent sure what to do without her, wasent sure who i would be without her. then she went to this school and met new friends and then i thought i was really toast, i thought to myself thats it she found new friends. but then i realized, she didnt find new friends, she just found new friends in that certain school, and i knew that what we had together; our friendship since 1st grade; was never gonna end. so if your friend wants to visit her college friends, ask if you can go with her, and maybe you'll get to know her friends, and then you all would become friends. And even though she calls them her best friends, just remember you were the first, you were before them. You are special to her, and she will never forget you. Hope i helped, and dont worry if she cares about you as much as i think she does, she wont forget you.
2007-03-25 14:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by marykate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully it is hard to know or think you are losing your best friend. I am in a similar situation my friend of about four yrs lives in another state and we have grown apart mostly because of me. However, a lot of it was misunderstandings because she did not communicate to me things she dislike or bother her and same could said about me. I had a hard time communicating with her when she does not understand what is going on with me. So if you talk to her and she continues to ignore your feelings it maybe time for you to move on. It is hard but sometimes for the best you never know once college or 4 b4 it is over you to might reconnect. I hope for my situation we do. I tried talking to my friend calmly but when we talk it seems she does not listen, is annoyed by what i am saying and seemed to attack rather than listen. So if your friend really listens and cares hopefully you can save the friendship. Also you could make other friends you can hang out on the weekends while she is visiting her other friends. It is extremely difficult to be friends with someone who have other friends who you do not get alone with and vice versa so you have look at it from her standpoint, I guess you just have to make the best choices for you. Hope this was somewhat helpful.
2007-03-25 21:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by Alone/Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with her when you can you'll never lose the love you have for each other as bestfriends but you will gain more. I went through just about the same thing but me and my bestfriend understand we grew apart and gained other close friends in our life. We only leave like 5 minutes from each other but havent hung out since last summer but we still will always be there for each other when needed the most. Just make sure u can hang out with her when you two get the chance.
2007-03-25 21:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems like she is makin new friends! it may seem like ur not her BEST friend anymore cause she has new friends...but she is aloud to have really good friends i mean its good to have more than one friend...no matter how much she hangs out with them You will always be her BEST FRIEND! just tell her u want to hang out with her more even if u go up to her colledge with her and hang out with her other friends! atleast u guys are hangin out! good luck =]
2007-03-25 21:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by Brooke H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a best firend just like that and i just told her that she better get her acts together or she can't call me her bff no more and it happen to work
2007-03-25 21:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Dina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋