Me and Tara were best friends from like 2nd grade until 9th grade when she moved away, but we still kept in touch until about a year ago and we lose touch. well about a month ago she contacted my on Myspace and I found out that she is going to have a baby girl by the end of this month!!! well I want to be happy for her, and she seems really happy about it...but my morals have always told me that having a baby at the age of 16 prolly isn't that good of an idea!! we're bath 16 (same bithday actually) and I just don't know what to do or think.......I'm not gonna go up to her and go "you freggin' wore! how stupid can you be?!" or anything like that.....just please help!!!! Please and Thank you!
~Katie!~
BTW... we're both 16 and in in 11th grade now (well she's in 10th now...)
2007-03-25 14:09:45 · 18 answers · asked by ♥femme fatale♥ 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
If she is happy, be happy for her.
2007-03-25 14:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad to here that you are going to wait before having a baby because yes 16 is very young. You really are in a hard situation and I understand your concern for your friend, Now, she is having a baby and I think now is the time to support your friends decision and be there for her. she has a hard road being a mom so you. Just keep your own morals and don't look down on someone else for their mistakes. Best of luck sweety.
2007-03-25 14:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first thing is just because she is going to have a baby doews NOT make her a whore. She may not be the brightest bulb in the pack, BUT this is a decision that she has made and must live with now. I would wish her the best of luck and see if there is anything I could do for her. But hope and pray that she has a healthy baby.
2007-03-25 14:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously, for whatever reason, happy about this - enough to contact you after a year to let you know. Some teens have such a lonely existence that they mistakenly think a child will help them feel better. What they don't realize is that having a baby is a lifetime commitment. If she is determined to keep this baby don't judge her. Be her friend, because I guarantee she will need all the friends she can get if she decides to raise this baby herself.
2007-03-25 14:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I can imagine that came as a shock... yes, 16 is very young to have a baby, it'll make it very difficult for her to get a good education and enjoy the rest of her own youth... but if she is so happy about it, then chances are that in spite of her age, she does probably have good support from her parents and hopefully from her boyfriend too. If that's the case, then yes, it won't be all easy, but she may be all right. Express your concern by all means, that's a normal reaction, but also try to be happy for her; it's tough but not impossible to be happy as a (very) young mother.
2007-03-25 14:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by Beyaelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't lie and tell yer you are happy. she may be happy now but it will catch up with her. You will have to decide if you want to be there when when the crash comes. However you MUST protect yourself and your own morals first. If you don't think she can be her friend without her "rubbing off" on you then I would advise you to end the friendship. You need to enjoy the rest of your childhood and if you become a mother then your childhood is over. Good luck.
2007-03-25 14:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by icunurse85 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I know it is hard, unfortunately accidents happen if you are not careful. Just be there for her. I do agree that 16 is too young to have a baby. I mean it is a baby having a baby.
But just be supportive .
2007-03-25 14:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your best friend!! Don't mess that up because of what you used to think. Just try to be a little open minded and don't loose a good friend over something so stupid!
2007-03-25 14:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by Dan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know how to be a friend? Non judgemental? She made bad choices...she may sound happy but she has just given up her proms....her dating....her life for the life of a child. She may resent this down the road.
Are you strong enough to remain her friend?
2007-03-25 14:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by missellie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do is just be a good friend and support her in all that she does. I know it's a dificult thing to do especially when you don't agree with what she's doing. But that's what makes a great friend a great friend. Peace!!!!!
2007-03-25 14:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What she needs is support from friends.
2007-03-25 14:16:28 · answer #11 · answered by TWT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋