Why do people tell pregnant women horror stories about birth?

Question

I deal with the public at work and it blows my mind how many people want to tell me all of the horror stories they can think of about giving birth. I am aware things can go wrong and I am aware that it is painful but why do people have to constantly remind me of it. Also they want to tell me symptoms that they had and then say for sure that I will get them when I say that I don't have that problem. I am 25 weeks and I feel great I sleep well and I am generally pretty comfortable, why does everyone think pregnancy has to be a miserable experience?

Answer 1

That's the main reason a smart, confident and assured woman such as yourself, will not allow people to tell you their horror stories. I have heard some too, and all I said to them was, "That was you - I'm in a different body and I want this baby and she will be healthy, happy and whole" and she was and is. I was 33 and I heard everything from "Girl, don't you think you're too old"? How sad. I pray that your pregnancy will continue to be a rewarding experience. Read the materials your physicians give you - you need to be aware - but be aware and armed with some information - not speculation and results from someone else's bad time. Mine was great! I went into labor and to the hospital about 6:30, my baby was born at 7:45 - and it was wonderful, whatever I felt - it was still the most precious and blessed feeling I have ever experienced. I always wanted to be a mother and God gave me the desires of my heart. So there. Pregnancy is the best experience and the greatest gift - because you were chosen and you are providing life . God bless you.

Answer 2

Because most women don't have very comfortable pregnancies and a lot of women share labor horror stories simply because they now have an excuse to tell you..ur pregnant....plus i think some of them secretly enjoy trying to freak people out

Answer 3

people dont think that it is miserable, they are preparing you for what is to come. I think that people love to jump at the chance to share their birthing story...I know I do it sometimes too...not sure why though. But I do know that someone had told me a bit more about labor. It was quite a shock to me when my privates were so swollen from pushing for three hours (sorry bout that)Wish someone had warned me bout that! I enjoyed being pregnant but looking back I can easily say..oh my feet hurt, labor hurt...blah blah......It just an easy way for people to connect with you...to say , hey I was pregnant too....

Answer 4

I had a perfect pregnancy and a really fast labor and delivery. That will happen to you. :) Don't worry about those fools. They just want someone to relate to them and not everyone will. I had a friend (notice the word "had") that told me I would have to have a c-section and that my baby was going to weigh so and so much and that he was going to be born on a certain day and blah blah blah.....anyways, none of that happened. I just let it all in one ear and out the other and didn't worry or stress about anything and my whole pregnancy was great.
I wish you the best!!!!!

Answer 5

that is her determination yet while there is reason to doubt her reason, ideally a professionally evaluated opinion, then i do no longer think of she has any precise to %. it is not suitable what she thinks. the toddler is plenty greater important. what variety of existence would that toddler ought to stay with? would it is so undesirable that he/she would particularly by no ability have been born? And what are the probabilities, from what we can tell possibly from DNA, that the youngster will improve as much as dedicate crimes? There are some distance worse issues in existence than dying (aka abortion), the two for the youngster and others. although that is truly uncommon for the former to be the case, and greater in all likelihood for the latter.

Answer 6

I don't know, but i remember this so well! You know what's funny, it doesn't end with the birth, get ready for everyone's stories about terrible screaming babies, colic, teething, sleepless nights, toddler tantrums...on and on and on till teenage evil and ungrateful brats!
I so wanted to bond with other mothers when this was a new club for me, but i didn't feel any of this stuff, and 5 kids later, i still think it's all crazy.
Pregnancy is uncomfortable sometimes,OK, acid reflux, cramps, etc, but it sure is wonderful to feel movement inside you, and it is great to feel no pressure to have a flat, toned anything!
Birth with my last two babies was purest bliss, i still meditate with the memory of my last labor if i'm stressed.I have never felt so powerful and so connected in my life, and if ever pain felt good, it was then.
Babies who breastfeed make your nipples a bit tender for about a week, till you two learn to latch on together, sure, but noone talks about the accidental eye contact that sparks a huge gummy grin, running rivers of milk down pink fat cheeks, while your eyes fill with tears of love and joy...why on earth not?
Why are we so proud of our suffering and misery and so shamefaced about our love and elation?
Life, like pregnancy, birth and parenting is usually what you think it is...

Answer 7

Im sorry to say, but as much as you dont want to hear it, they are true stories, and they can happen to anyone. I had a very un eventful labor and delivery, and I wish you the same. Please try not to stress about what they are telling you. And remember, you will be in a hospital, and they have eerything they need there to save lives :)

Answer 8

i wouldn't say that "everyone" thinks that pregnancy is a miserable experience. People maybe should keep their opinions to themselves, but it is your choice to let it bother you, smile say thanks and let it roll off your back.

Congrats on a comfortable pregnancy!

Answer 9

Amen...I agree I'm 21 weeks and boy if they don't try to scare you !!! It's my first so I'm already nervous. GOOD LUCK & CONGRATS !!!

Answer 10

Because there are some.