Me and Tara were best friends from like 2nd grade until 9th grade when she moved away, but we still kept in touch until about a year ago and we lose touch. well about a month ago she contacted my on Myspace and I found out that she is going to have a baby girl by the end of this month!!! well I want to be happy for her, and she seems really happy about it...but my morals have always told me that having a baby at the age of 16 prolly isn't that good of an idea!! we're bath 16 (same bithday actually) and I just don't know what to do or think.......I'm not gonna go up to her and go "you freggin' wore! how stupid can you be?!" or anything like that.....just please help!!!! Please and Thank you!
~Katie!~
2007-03-25 14:03:45 · 11 answers · asked by ♥femme fatale♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
BTW... we're both 16 and in in 11th grade now (well she's in 10th now...)
2007-03-25 14:05:38 · update #1
Just be supportive of your friend and don't make judgments or comments that might make her feel bad. Since you haven't been in her life recently you have no idea of the circumstances of her pregnancy or what she may have been going through in her life. Although you are only 16, you are old enough to realize that in life people make mistakes and poor choices. Have compassion and treat her like you would want to be treated in a similar situation. Don't judge because you never know when your own life might take a sudden turn and you might find yourself in a situation where you are judged. Nobody's perfect.
2007-03-25 14:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to remember that it's her life, and the things she has done shouldn't affect how you feel towards her. One of my best friends just had a baby (we're both in the 11th grade) and I honestly can say it's one of the best things that happened for her. My morals are the same that having a baby during high school isn't a good idea, but with every action there is a consequence. Just be her friend, because in the long run that is all you really can do.
2007-03-25 21:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by banana_monster_22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morally you may not like it. Morrally your friend may not be ready for a baby. Ethically you should just try to be happy for her. You havent been best friends for a long time. You dont know her circumstances, or maybe you do . Since she keeping the baby. Maybe suggest staying in school and diffrent ways to be the best mom possible. Though I am sure shes getting enough flack and ridicule at school and home, she will need some support from a friend. Swallow your morals as best you can, tell her your excited and if you want to be friends again nows the best time to start hanging back with her and give her a good shoulder.
2007-03-25 21:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by I luv Pets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if Tara would want to have a 'best frien' who was so judgemental and shallow? I know I wouldn't. I don't know many young girls who would. Tara isn't YOU...what you want for yourself doesn't HAVE to be what Tara wants for HERSELF, she has the right to make her own choices just as you have the right to make your's. I'm sure she isn't thinking about going to you and calling you a Tightassed Prude. I'm wondering who the better friend in all of this would be...don't go looking into any mirrors for the answer.
2007-03-25 21:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you shouldn't be overthinking it. it isn't that big a deal to you. if your friend decided to screw up her life, it's her thing. don't fret over someone elses mistake, it is a waste of time and makes you look dumb, not caring. i'm sorry if this sounds insulting, but by no means do i mean it in that way. it's just simple, don't go moral crazy over someone elses problem, especially since she seems happy about it, you'll be causing yourself grief and she'll still be happy.
2007-03-25 22:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's awkward for her too. Just be there when she needs you. I lost alot of my good friends once I got pregnant at 17 and it's been lonely having to wonder what is wrong with me. I now know that they felt awkward around me. Don't be harsh on her just yet.
2007-03-25 21:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to be there for her because it even harder on her due to the fact she is due at the end of the month plus you wouldn't want to lose that friendship again.
2007-03-25 21:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by nicnoo23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be so judgemental. i found out my friend had a threesome about a month after we graduated 8th grade but people change like that sometimes. u just have to accept it and accept her.
2007-03-25 21:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by mayris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell that wasn't a good idea but you cant do anything now shes having the baby thats it! god is going to protec her and her baby
Dont Worry
2007-03-25 21:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have got to be there for her
ok sure she messed up we both know that but she needs you to be there for her
dont give up on her cuz she messed up plzzzz look in ur heart and be there for her and her baby
she needs you more now then ever so be there for her
2007-03-25 22:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by terry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋