friend has just split from his wife a month ago (she had an affair) they have a 6 year old daughter together.
he went out the weekend after they split and got talking 2 some other girl, they continued 2 talk and tex and he went and visited her the weekend after they first met, things were going ok. he started saying he dosnt know what to do or what to think he wasnt sure if it was to soon after he split with his wife.
now a month after the break up he planned to go and see this girl he had met, and she said that she wanted to talk about becoming partners, he went down and was waiting for her 2 finnish work, BUT in the mean time he got chatting to another girl and went back the her place for a one night stand!!! and never met the girl who he was supposed 2 (the two girls are friends and work in the same place)
now his attitude had totaly changed and all he wants 2 do is go out and see how many girls he can pull etc. his attitude is total disrecpect for girls
WHAT CAN I DO OR SAY
2007-03-25 13:58:32 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont want him to end up lonly and regretting his choices he is 29 years old!!!!
2007-03-25 13:59:25 · update #1
i have already spoke to him but he hasnt taken any notic as i really dont know how to explain things properly
2007-03-25 14:00:20 · update #2
Well, you are a great friend to be concerned. But you've said your piece, and it doesn't appear to have made any difference to him.
I'm afraid you're going to have to allow him to make his own mistakes. It seems to me as though, since a woman has hurt him, he's going to not give a rip about about any woman's feelings right now (in effect, punishing THEM for what his wife did to him.) It's a sad situation for both him and them.
I'm glad that you're concerend about him disrespecting women, because with his present attitude, he'll never find a decent one. You might want to mention this to him....but most of all, be there for him when he needs a shoulder to cry on...'cause at some point, he will.
BTW I LOVE the bull terrier in the pic! :)
2007-03-25 14:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, i get the feeling you are interested in this guy. Only because of the way you have worded everything in your question/post. Do you? Even though he has a child I think he obviously wasn't ready for a relationship to begin with, and, him being 29, he is starting to feel the years creap up on him. Even at that age, it can be considered mid-life crisis. And it only becomes clearer in the fact that he had a one night stand while waiting for someone else. I suggest staying out of it all together. If you are related to him or the ex, I can only imagine what you are thinking. You obviously are a smart person, and should pay attention to your gut.
2007-03-25 21:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by barb b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's terribly and bitterly hurt by his wife's affair. Men, especially, do not handle another man in the picture well. I mean, their male egos make it even harder for them. He's trying to "prove" to himself that he's still "hot". He's also acting out on his anger, and revenge. That's how men are built.
Though it's NOT "right", he needs to get this out of his system & he will learn from the messes he puts himself in.
You need to let him know that you will leave him alone to "do what he's gotta do", but won't be a part of it (and don't cave in). Make it clear that you WILL be there for him when he calms down (he will eventually).
Good luck to you... and to him, (not to mention the "other" girls)
2007-03-25 21:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by PJo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some time he doesn't want to settle down in a serious relationship he has just split with his wife
he may want to get back with her or just wants to play the field for a while
29 is not old leave him alone give him at least 1-2 years to get it out of his system
2007-03-26 08:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by D D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is get him talking to his wife again, I know it was wrong for what she did but if she loves him she'll try to make it work and put it in perspective for the both of them, to me it just seems like he's blowing off steam because his wife cheated on him. But, their married there's a history, you cant just throw that away for a few one night stands, plus she is the mother if his child.
2007-03-25 21:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by chelsmat2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would advise you to just leave this! your friends wife cheated on him with another man! hell be feeling low in self esteem and confidence! what better for a boost then different girls enjoying his company as many as possible thats how hell look at it! and anyone thank god hes not getting emotinally involved with any female straight after his split he needs time to heal and time to see whats out there!
let him have his fun! just be there for him when he falls apart and realises all he wants is his family!
hes acting just like any other man would!
2007-03-25 23:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by SWANNY AND SNUGGLES! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is old enough to learn his own lessons.This will come back and bite him in the butt soon enough. GIve him time, he is probably pretty bitter over his wife and in some way feels like he is getting back at her. However he needs to show more respect for women for the sake of his daughter.
2007-03-25 21:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hurt and trying to make him self feel better by being with all these different girls. There is not much you can say he is a grown man and he will do it weither you or anyone else wants him to. Try telling him that it is not safe and that he needs to take some time for himself and for his child.
2007-03-25 21:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is exactly it. He just realised that he is attractive to the ladies. Now he is going to have a sex-fest. I hope he is using protection. Maybe he is getting a little too greedy..You need to tell him that he can date other women, just not all in the first week...ssssllllllloooooowwwwww down..
2007-03-25 21:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is really hurt by his relationship. He probably just got really tired of women treated him with disrespect so now he decided he's not going to be so nice anymore.
2007-03-25 21:02:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋