My roommate comes from a rich family and is used to not having to do anything. Lately she has been trying to get me to do everything around the house. We alternate chores, but she asked me to clean the house and cook a few weeks ago in exchange for $20. I am always short cash and gladly accepted. Over the last couple of weeks this has become the norm. Our friendship also seems to be more distant as well.
This morning I thought things were better because she gave me a present. It was a black skirt and white blouse - the same uniform her family's maid wears. I thought it was a joke and laughed it off, but she said it would keep my regular clothes from getting dirty. She even had me try it on.
I felt like an idiot, but was not sure what to say. Her father pays our rent and I cannot afford a place on my own, but this seems a bit extreme. Is Beth really being my friend? Is this a joke?
2007-03-25 13:46:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Free rent in exchange for a few house chores not to mention some extra cash....wish i could find a deal like that
2007-03-25 13:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Atheism itself is your best shot at heaven !! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her that you're not her maid or anything of the like-but her roommate. Like an answer for this question said already, refuse to take the money. Beth knows that you need money and is trying to tempt you that way. Don't let the money make you do stuff for her-she needs to play a part in keeping things in order too. When she hands you money, tell Beth, "No thanks, I can't do your chores right now. I've got some stuff I need to take care of." And then walk away. If Beth keeps trying to pressure you, explain to her that you think she should do some stuff around the place too. Tell her that right now you can't afford to be doing things for her right now. Beth isn't being a good friend/roommate to you and she needs to take responsibility for herself and do things on her own. A maid won't be following her for the rest of her life.
Remember: Don't let your roommate or anybody at all try to take advantage of you!! :)
I hope things work out!!
2007-03-25 14:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk back. Make up a chart of what they make you do and then rotate those chores among you on a weekly basis. Splitting the cost of some things is right, but it should be fair and something that you each use equally. Sharing the cost of food can be problematic--I wouldn't do it. Each person can have their individual space in the fridge and cupboards and nobody should consume the others food--period. If you don't understand why they want you to pay a certain expense--play dumb and tell them you don't understand and you need an explanation. Or just ask, "Why should I." with a smile on your face. Pay your fair share, but don't be used.
2016-03-17 02:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beth is taking advantage of you. It may not be her goal, but it is the result.
You said that she paid you to do her work a few weeks ago. Does she still pay you to do her portion? If so, then just politely refuse her offer of money and let her do her own share. Beth feels a sense of empowerment by her father's paying of the rent, but it is just that....her father is paying the bill not Beth. If you have an obligation to anyone it is Beth's father.
2007-03-25 13:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Randy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a few things. Was your room mate your friend before she was you room mate? The fact that her father pays the rent probably makes her feel like you should do all the work to "pay your way". I'd not think that it's a joke and really wish you weren't in a predicament where you can't afford your own place because she could really make things miserable for you. I hope I'm wrong. God Bless:)
2007-03-25 13:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by gone2soon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG you have to set some boundaries with her. Stop being her maid. Tell her the outfit is an insult. Ask her if her parents will pay for a weekly house cleaning service for her (and You). Don't be a welcome mat for anyone else or you will be in such good practice that this will become your role in life.
2007-03-25 14:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just say hey im your friend not your maid. You can get a job if you need money( not to sound mean). I mean its ok once in a while but dont let her get to comfortable.; )
2007-03-25 13:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by princess123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go home to mom and dad
2007-03-25 14:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by Dina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋