what does a wife do when her husband looks at Internet porno when shes not home?

Answer 1

Gidget…

#1. does it bother you or not?
#2. If it does bother you, why?
a. Do you feel threatened?
b. Do you think he doesn’t love you any more?
c. Do you think he’s less interested in you cause he looks at other women?
d. Does his looking interfere with his daily schedule?
e. How much time does he actually spend looking?
f. Does he ignore you (wants-needs-desires) to look?

#3. If it doesn’t bother you I am sure of the following.
a. You are secure in your own self esteem
b. You are secure in your marriage
c. You are secure knowing your husband loves and cherishes you above all others
d. You do not feel “threatened” just because your husband looks


A few things to remember here,,

Women are verbal and or mental/emotional. I have read “COSMO” etc.. type women’s magazines, “romance novels” and they are every bit as “graphic” as looking at porn. The only difference is they use words to describe the actions.

Men are “visual” and not as mental/emotional. Specifically men can look at porn, naked women, etc.. without any “attachments” of any sort. It is simply looking at the same thing that women read about. Generally speaking means absolutely zero. Do women read and fantasize about some hot wild time of passion with a man, of course they do. Does it mean they don’t love their husband? of course not. Does it mean they would rather read about it, or spend the time with their husband? of course not.

So what if he looks at porn? If you are truly secure in yourself, your marriage, what you mean to your husband, etc. etc. what is actually the harm?? Like any thing said, done, thought, fantasized over, etc.. it is only an issue IF the activities are a replacement for, done to excess to the detriment of the partner’s quality time together and/or the activity interferes with normal married life.

Say you were an AVID “Cosmo” and/or “romance novel” reader,, could you see/understand how your husband might feel?? Especially if you only read when them when your husband was at work, and your “reading” in no way interfered with your normal married life together?

You can “act” anyway you want to over this, but I can guarantee if you “throw a fit” cause You think it’s wrong on some level toward you. #1 you have some serious self-esteem issues, #2 your husband is going to see how insecure you really are in yourself, how you perceive pictures as a personal threat, your true level of distrust of you have for him, and how little trust you have in him.

Answer 2

If it makes u upset then tell him. he should stop, if its going to drive a wedge into your relationship. In relationships you have to sacrifice some things. I had this same problem and I explained it to him like this He didnt like me using sex toys, cause he felt insecure and I said thats how I feel about u looking at other girls. Are we insecure?Yes, yes we are but we try not to make it too hard on each other..maybe someday we'll get over it...

Answer 3

If it really bothers you, put a parental block on your computer and don't give him the password. He will either be bold enough to ask for it, or he'll stop accessing internet porn. but one way or the other, it will make him realize that it upsets you and its now up to him to do the right thing. Good Luck.

Answer 4

seems kinda sleezy to sneak around. If you have to sneak around it is because you know your wife disapproves. It really isn't worth hurting your wife just to get your jollies. I would be extra mad if I found out he was sneaking around and spending our money to pay for it. It seems really dishonest.