here we go,last xmas my husband accused my of cheating with my moms fiance(nothing did happen)so i found out dec 30/06 that my husband went out for coffee with my neighbour because he needed someone to talk to.fine get another opinion but why have to be so secretive about it i found out at the same time that my other neighbour said she would sleep with him but didnt want to have to deal with me if i were to find out!i have found his pic on dating sites and sexual sights and deleted all the accounts with his knowledge.he wants to be out alot hanging out smoking his weed(he's alomst 42,im almost 34)but its with his nephew who is almsot 21.hes acting weird saying that he doesnt know if there is any feelings left for us anymore but tells me he loves me when we have sex the a few days later hes blaaaa.i feel iffy about him hanging with his nephew he knows everything that went on and im nervous about the whole computer thing he dinied it but i already saw it.am i just being paranoid?help!!!!
2007-03-25 13:40:44 · 10 answers · asked by perfectwife06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am an honest person and I am going to maintain one! What is wrong with you??? You know you should have been and left this man. Someone telling you they love you during sex doesn't count. Men love everyone and everybody during sex! You know that. There is something wrong with your husband and you have already caught him red handed. What are you waiting for? A disease of some sort? you aren't being paranoid you are being weak. You might not leave him, but just listen to this:
Your husband has shown you that he doesn't care about you. You have shown me that you don't care about yourself? Who will care about you if you don't???? Take care of you.
2007-03-25 13:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you like read everything before you posted it?? Of course he playing games and at 42 you would think he would have been past that. If he doesnt know if he has feelings left for you anymore then you should tell him its over cause by the time he finds out you can be moved on with someone much better. He only told you he loved you cause he wanted to have sex. To me he is showing you all of the obvious signs. Dont waste yo time on someone who doesnt really love you and isnt doing anything for you. Cause you can always do better on your own. Good luck.
2007-03-25 20:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the weed is talking. R u really in love with this guy because i didn't hear you say he worked and you already caught him lying and the nephew is acting weird. If I were you I would find someone who really cares and get rid of the garbage he is dishing out to you. Take care Heather
2007-03-25 20:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like a playmate then a husband. He accused you of cheating so he didn't feel guilty. Honey your to young to get stuck in this rut. If he wants to smoke his weed and play around with kids, then move on and find someone who will appreciate you. He is for lack of better words, a man still in a kid's body. He will never amount to anything at this rate.
2007-03-25 20:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not being paranoid, if all those things you just said is true. talk with him, tell him how you feel. if you are really unhappy with your marriage, then separate for a while, so that you can find what your looking for. and maybe he will see what it will be like when you are gone. or go for some marriage counseling if you want to save your marriage, but it has to be up to you if you still want to be in this kind of relationship. I think you can find someone better. but that is my opinion. good luck.
2007-03-25 20:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be paranoid when you have the proof. You are young and have a lot of life to live. You don't confide and pull a neighbour into your personal life. That is unfair to you to begin with, no matter what happened.
2007-03-25 23:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheaters themselves are often very paranoid of others cheating on them and try to accuse their partner of cheating as well. I'd say dump his pot smokin ***.
2007-03-25 20:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by makospawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with heather
2007-03-25 21:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole bunch of you are so immature...............
2007-03-25 21:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM AND DONT LOOK BACK
2007-03-25 20:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋