2007-03-25 13:40:44 · 18 answers · asked by Bubbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly, I did not consider that the marriage would end. Had I even thought that would happen, I would never have married.
But having experienced it now, it hurts like the inside of your body is going to implode and the sick feeling in your stomach never goes away. It may ease somewhat, but it is the most painful thing I have ever experienced. The awful part is that you and your ex spouse are still alive and you have to wonder the rest of your life what they are doing.
2007-03-25 13:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by makeitright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have done everything to make the marriage work and it didn't, and you have made the legal proceeding of the divorce as fair and undramatic as possible it should be Great. Financially, it might not be so great, but that aside it is a freeing experience. Take time to work on yourself and be sure you realize what part you played in your marriage going wrong. If your learned from your mistakes you are free to pursue a healthy relationship when you are ready for one. It is okay to feel a little bummed out over an unsuccessful marriage, you can often find divorce recovery support groups.Really how you feel varies from one situation to the next and whether or not kids are involved.
2007-03-25 21:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sad. Even though I knew there was no hope for the marriage and that he was not willing to work at it, it was very sad. It was a breaking of a promise. It was the end of what I thought was a permanent relationship. I mourned.
It was the right thing to do. I've remarried, made a wiser choice, and have been happily married for 23 years but it's still sad that it happened.
People act like divorced people think the vows are disposable and don't care. Not true. But life isn't fairy tales. Mistakes are made. Divorces need to happen.
2007-03-25 20:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by Karrose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, the end of my marriage was like the ending of my life. I was devestated. I wanted to be dead....I felt there was no point in going on. That was the initial feeling, but with time my feelings changed.....I realised that I was a strong vibrant woman and still had a lot ot give a man. Five years after my divorce I was a totall different woman and viewed everything that I had endured was for a purpose....so the end result, for me, was a good thing....it allowed me to meet the real love of my life, so if my marriage had not ended, I would not be feeling like the happiest woman on this earth.
2007-03-25 20:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always believed that marriage is something which is meant to never end. Till death do us part is in th e vows. My fairy tale story came crashing down when my ex beat me into the intensive care unit for the tenth or so time. I was most relieved to get the guy out of my marriage. He turned out to be dr. jeckyl and mr. hyde. I still believe that marriage is forever, which, is why i guess I am still single after 10 years!
2007-03-25 20:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by msbalisong 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that... twice. It's always sad, whether you want the divorce or not. It's cold, bitter, lonely. There's pain and alot of tears, & feeling sorry for yourself. It's a long road ahead. Or it could also be a "relief" if you've been with the wrong person, especially for a long time.
If there are kids involved, it's even harder. But kids ALWAYS sense when their parents are unhappy or suffering, & they're better off apart. Kids are resilient. BUT they NEED to know it's NOT their fault. And NEVER, NEVER talk-down the other spouse in front of the kids, & DON'T involve them in your arguments in ANY way!! I see this all too often & THAT'S when the kids have problems. Repeatedly reassure them that BOTH parents love them & will be there for them.
It's not easy, but we get through it. Believe me, there REALLY IS life after divorce.
2007-03-25 20:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by PJo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on which end you are on.If you are on the receiving end of a divorce and don't want it then you are going to be very miserable for along time.
2007-03-25 21:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it was like a dream come true. My life began after dumping the loser who had been sucking the life out of me for 15 years!
2007-03-25 20:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by nondescript 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can tell you what the end of a marriage is like,and it isn't preety if children are involved.
2007-03-25 20:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it was great,I got rid of a shyster chick and met some real women.
2007-03-25 20:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by naseldrip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋