If an ex husband claims that he never wants to see you again, wouldn't that mean that if you had stuff between

Question

If an ex husband claims that he never wants to see you again, wouldn't that mean that if you had stuff between

you both, that he would want it seperated as fast as possible? What does it mean when an ex strings things out for a couple years, instead of taking care of it all at once? Do you think it means that he is hoping his feelings will change? Is there any hope for the relationship? What do you think? No insults please.. I want honest, but kind answers.. thanks

Answer 1

We're not necessarily upset that a relationship is over, we're upset because it didn´t end to our satisfaction. Because there are always a lot of issues that are left undone or unsaid we tend to hold out to the last. I think it´s almost impossible to go back. The only alternative is go forward. God doesn't close a door without opening another.

Answer 2

What it means is, "He never wants to see you again", whether there's stuff between you both or not. Your ex has told you what he wants. This man isn't hoping his feelings will change, he's finished with things the way they are. There's no hope for your relationship. You didn't mention why your ex told you what he did, but it's clear he doesn't want you in his life. You should see a domestic lawyer and see what your rights are and bring closure to your sham of a marriage.

Answer 3

Some guys just can't get it together to organize stuff in their lives. Put everything in boxes and put it in the basement, labeled, and forget about it. When he wants it back, tell him he takes all of it or nothing. When he argues about it, tell him that he can get some legal backing for his demands. He'll then have to pay a lawyer to handle it and he probably won't want to. You might be stuck with the stuff but he sure doesn't have any place to put it yet and he's using you as self-storage (which is quite expensive and they are much rougher - if he doesn't pay a self storage bill, they just auction the junk off).
He doesn't want to get back together, he's just lazy and his life's a mess.
Been there. Watched friends' stuff get auctioned off in self-storage because they wouldn't or couldn't pay the bill. And I have a friend who goes to those auctions and picks up all the crap that is the sum total of some poor guy's property in his messy disorganized life - it goes for very little.

Answer 4

He seems to experience to blame. i might seperate your issues and tell him he can get what he needs and you'd be long gone on an identical time as he gets his issues. He needed considered one of two issues...A) he had to make it paintings and so he was hoping issues might exchange for him or B) he had to substantiate issues worked out along with his new love pastime. i'm so sorry to your discomfort inspite of the undeniable fact that in basic terms enable him get his issues devoid of you there so which you do not have the hopes of any communication that's what he's attempting to dodge and then pass on and know you're a lot greater suitable now.

Answer 5

Same situation....it's been 3 years and he just asked me if I wanted my dresser back?? I believe that he did not want it to end regardless who ended it. And now perhaps from the advice of a friend or a new relationship he is wanting things to be divided and maybe final for the last time. I suggest that someone makes it final or future potential relationships may fail due to an ex hang-up.

Answer 6

I have recently went through the same thing, my ex decided that he wanted to see someone else. So he has (A few different people that I know of). What I did was gather up all of his things, that I thought he should have back, and called him to come and pick them up so that we could finally cut all strings attached to each other. It also helps you to go on with your life.

Answer 7

It may be a means of control....that as long as he has these items that you cannot move forward with your life. It forces you to go to him in some way, which may not have anything to do with loving feelings. If the items don't mean that much, then you may need to write them off. If they have value, there must be something the legal system can do to bring this to some type of conclusion.

Answer 8

NO no hope at all. He's just being a jerk. Stringing things out long as possible just to drive you insane, as if the marriage to him wasn't enough. He just wants the power and control right up to the end. Trust me, I went through it. Wrap everything up ASAP and move on with you life.

Answer 9

As long as you put out he should keep coming around. There really is no chance of you two getting back together. If you worked it out and got back together it would only last a very short time.

Make a clean break, go to a bar get drunk and throw yourself at anybody that will have you and forget about him.

I mean you are not getting any younger.

Answer 10

It means he wants to be in control of the situation. He is hurt and drawing this out is his way of hurting you. Do the dirty work for him finish all the unfinished business and be done with it. Compartmentalize your emotions, treat it as business. If you allow personal feelings to interfere with this it will make it harder for you to grieve the end of the relationship and to successfully move on. Be strong and don't let him see you sweat.